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How can I get some?! I'm so dependant on other people, mainly my boyfriend (hence the relationship section).

We both love each other so it's not like he doesn't need/want me, it's just that, if he's upset he can happily just stay alone and be by himself which is totally fine, I just wish I could. When i'm upset I have to talk to him about it and I always get really frustrated that i'm not with him, and the thought of not having him there is just painful. I have been independent before with relationships, just not this one, I could have walked away from every single of my past boyfriends and felt fine after a few days, so how can I get my independence back? I'm fine with being dependent on him, but if he ever leaves me, thats when it would hit me hard, so I just thought learning how to be independent just incase would be better?

Grey's Anatomy fan! woo.

it must be hard to be when he leaves you. i think you should stay away from him for a moment. tell him that you want to learn to stop depending on him, and try to do everything by yourself. i'm afraid he'll get bored with you. you're lucky because he's still loves you even though you keep on depending on him.

I had this problem.

Talk to yourself, just make sure your alone. You know your boyfriend well enough to know what she's say. Cuddle up with a stuffed animal and just have a conversation with yourself.

There are also lots of stress relieving techniques that can help you feel less stressed (if that is the root of your upsetness)

I don't want to be away from him for a while though, thats the point, and I do talk to myself haha, when i'm crying especially

Grey's Anatomy fan! woo.

My best advice? Focus on something thats not your boyfriend. I'm a lot like your boyfriend. I can fight myself inside my own head and not need anyone- it would piss my ex-gf off so fucking bad. But what she pretty much did was either a) find another outlet or b) find stress relievers.

Its hard, but you can't always be dependent on other people, because then it becomes like a leech- you need them, but they don't need you. It just leads to lots of hurt feelings all around.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

I guess, I don't annoy my boyfriend with it luckily, as I don't mention it, I just try fend myself off if that makes sense. He knows it, weve spoken about it, but I just don't really mention it ever so I guess thats something

Grey's Anatomy fan! woo.

Its interesting, even if I knew my ex wouldn't talk about it, I knew it bothered her, so I annoyed the shit out of her til she told me. I think he needs to grow up and talk about your problems. Thats part of the deal about being in a relationship.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Well he does talk to me about it, it's really hard to describe relationships to someone who isn't actually you or your partner, as they wont know the whole story, he's an amazing boyfriend, it's me i'm complaining about haha

Grey's Anatomy fan! woo.