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Okay.. so I've known this guy for about 6 months now. I'll admit I'm crazy for him and have been since we were younger. We're actually cousins, you'll probably be grossed out but that doesn't bother us. Anyway, we've been talking on the phone ever since, 'cause that's all we can do. Unless I SNEAK my way out to see him, my parents refuse to let me go out with him. But one day my dad took us to see them and my dad had come back home that night and left us there to have dinner with them. As I've said we're not really used to being around each other, I've only sneaked my way to see him a couple times and when I saw him we kept our hands to ourselves. So as he saw my dad leaving and my dad had called him later on telling him to bring us home, he knew he wasn't coming back so I hung out w/ him in his room. For the first time, he tried to kiss me and we hugged, nothing major. I refused the kisses though 'cause it was all too soon. But he kept on coming, I kept on refusing.
Anyway.. the last time I saw him was something I now regret. It was the worst day of my life. This is where I need help from you guys. Idk if I'm the one who made a mistake or if it's his fault. Alright so we met up, and he claimed we'd go home so no one would see us, not so he could GET ON TOP OF ME. I had no idea that would happen.. So we got there and went into his room, we sat around for a while, talked and just stared. Then he lays down and he's like 'lay with me'. Again I refuse doing anything 'cause I hadn't considered seeing him to make-out. But he pulled me down and we layed side by side, I was okay w/ that. The dude GOT ON ME, and started kissing my neck. I can't remember if I had the force to get him off or I just didn't try, but he was on there for a couple minutes. He eventually got off, and I was fucking pissed at myself, him and life.
Now I just don't know what to do with myself or him..
Dump him? It's not that easy. I know what he did was wrong, but I'm the one who accepted going to his house. & he claims what he did was nothing and was something that's supposed to be in a relationship.
Again, dump him.
Just for the fact that it's your cousin. Your COUSIN!
Eww.
Yeah we have the same last name, so what?
All that matters is that 2 people love each other.
He's not my brother, that would be extremely disgusting, he's my cousin..
I haven't grown up with him, we barely saw each other when we were little and we never even talked to each other. It's like we're not even cousins.
I'm in a relationship, i've been in a relationship. At NO point in the past 11 months have I held my girlfriend down and kissed her against her will because that's what I was supposed to do. You're being ridiculous.
You can't ever really see each other
You're scared of physical contact
It seems like you two are more like close family members than in a relationship ANYWAYS.
Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.
Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3
Okay, ignoring the fact that he's your cousin, this is still wrong. Yeah, you agreed to go into his house, but not to have him on top of you. Just because I go to my boyfriends house does not mean I'm accepting to have sex with me, or anything like that. That is not something that people in a relationship just do. A meaningful relationship leads to that. You're not even comfortable kissing him or being around him yet, so why should it be okay for him to get on top of you and kiss you on the neck?
And you're pissed for a reason. You subconsciously know that what he did was wrong. And not your fault by the way. Let him know you're not okay with this. And I say dump him, not because he's your cousin, but because of the type of guy he is. He's moving too fast for you and not respecting your boundaries. That's not the type of person you want to be with.
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