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I have been single for awhile, haven't gotten anywhere had about 6 gfs most of them less then a week, I'm 15 yrs Old and in 10th grade. I haven't had my "first" yet. Anyway I like this girl but idk if she likes me, I like her but I don't wanna be with her cause she does drugs all the time an I'm against drug use. But it may be the only chance I get to be with someone due to the fact no girl likes me in my school. Which is depressing. Idk what to do. I like her and sorta wanna date her but she does drugs an I wanna be with someone who doesn't need drugs to be happy. But yet again it may be the only chance I get. Idk what to do I need some help. :/ (sadlife)

You're young darling. Don't go for her you know it's not what you want, and chances are it won't work. You have different outlooks on life and that. I'm years older then you and I'm still trying to find someone... It doesn't mean we should settle for others in the mean time. So just enjoy your life, the older you are and the less you've done is actually a very respectable thing that girls will admire about you. So just have fun, enjoy life.. don't rush into love, i promise you most of the time it's just heartache and kills you like you wouldn't believe.. People are lucky if they get it easy, or if it's good.. but a lot of the time it isn't so try not to rush into it.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

I agree with her

Thanks deepdistress, but I hate being single. And I know you said I can't rush into things but it's just that I'm around love all the time and I don't get any it's really frustrating for me cause I just want some of what they are getting. I have a feeling where I just hate being alone and too see all my friends happy with someone, and I'm usually not happy cause I'm always the single one. And it's just that I want to share my feelings and emotions and happy moments with someone I care about other than family and friends. And so far it hasn't been good cause all the time I'm with someone I always end up being used and left for another guy right after. But I don't wanna give up but it's just that nobody wants me and I try to go for someone and I always get rejected so idk what to do anymore.

If you're expecting a good, nurturing, happy relationship in high school, trust me—you aren't going to get it. I'm almost 18 and I've come to realize most people in high school aren't interested in actual love. It's more of a status symbol for them. I'd suggest you wait until people around you mature before you risk your heart over someone who isn't going to last.

Take it from a girl who's dated once and who's been deemed unworthy of dating ever since (not that I was worthy to begin with). High school is the worst place to look for love.

Yeah but trust me, taking single over heartbreak is the best choice... It really is. Being heartbroken and that is like the worst imaginable thing.

When you date, each person they take a piece of you with them that you never get back. You slowly loose yourself. It ruins you if you do it too much, or it goes too bad. So just wait for the right girl that REALLY catches your eye and you see a really good future with. Most 15 year old relationships AREN'T going to be like that. And your friends yeah, they look happy and they are but it's probably not legit real relationships. They're most likely all gonna end badly. So just give it time. Try and be happy. If you get yourself in the right mind set to be single it can be like the best thing ever. I used to be JUST like you, then I hit a point after my last relationship where i was ECSTATIC to be single, the thought of relationships sicked me etc. Probably cause my last one ended crappy, hah. But still.. now again I'm going through hurt. Being single can seriously be grand.. so just try and change your mind set and enjoy life. I know it's hard though. But if you are going to date, don't start with a druggie when you already don't like drugs. You want to make sure your first gf and first kiss and that will be a nice memory to look back on, not losing your first kiss and first gf crappy and druggie and ended badly.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

So I have to be single till out of high school? Cause I can't even wait 4 months. I can't imagine 2 years

No you don't but I don't think you should rush or try for a relationship, let it come to you.
If you can't be content on your own then your relationship will suffer. When you want a relationship so bad it becomes infatuated and clingy

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

Everybody was made different I guess cause even though heartbreak sounds bad I just need a difference and get out of my rut and just have something new in my life.

Hah.. wait till you hurt from love.. then you'll agree. But yeah I know it's hard when you've never been hurt by it.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3