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Hello there,

First of all, I've been friends with this girl since we are three, so I trust her, a lot. The problem is, she is so damn sexy!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, we were on a party last friday, and she gave a lap dance, saying we we're friends so it was fine, and goshhhh, I have a girlfriend but she really drives me crazy, what da hell should I do???? any input aprecciated

Well who wouldn't be turned on by that.

Do you want to be with her?

I think you should tell your GF what happened, so it doesnt bite you in the future.

I told my gf what happened and she is really mad at me now, not only because of the lap dance but also because I catched a TD pass and gave my bf a hug, the problem is, i'm really afraid of losing my friendship with her, we already kissed once, she was drunk, and I stopped her after the first kiss it was before I started dating so it doesn't count as cheating, but im afraid the thoughts im having about making out with my bf count as cheating

Are you sure this friend of yours doesn't actually fancy you?
Did you ask her? I don't think you did.

You shouldn't just talk with your gf, but you should sit around the table with all three of you and talk about it.

the thing with em is, they dont like each other, and i really love the both of em, my gf is just the girl of my dreams, the kind of girl u wanna marry, and my friend is the kinda girl u wanna be friends with forever, im afraid all my bf wants is to be friends forever and im afraid im thinking with my penis and not with my head (i hope it does not sound rude)

No offence, but it sounds like you're thinking with your penis here..

Just that you said you love your girlfriend like the "kind of girl you'd want to marry", yet you like this other girl, and shes making you crazy. I think that you love your girlfriend but your best friend is hot, and I also think she might know that, if she likes you, she can totally use that to her advantage. So think of it this way, shes hot so I bet a load of guys have the same feeling as you, so if you dated her, she could easily move on. However, if you lose your girlfriend you might never get her back, and you just need to really think which means the most to you, imagine your friend was ugly, would you still want to be friends with her as much as you do?

Grey's Anatomy fan! woo.

really like the way u put things in perspective here Izziee, i dont think i would have a problem with my bf if she was ugly, guess when we were 3 we didnt really consider if someone was handsome or not, the thing here is, im really afraid she likes me, and eventually makes me break up and get into a relationship with her, which will, sooner or later, end, at the end of the day friendship is forever, teen love aint

Question: How would you feel if your girlfriend gave some guy a lapdance and said it was ok because she and the guy were "friends"?

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

I'm sort of in an unofficial relationship with mine, it's been on and off for a few years but whatever. Taking into consideration my personal experience, I'd say go for it. We've also been best friends since early childhood and I tell you man, it's fucking phenomenal. Bag dat hoe now.

p.s. Obviously if you 100%, completely, absolutely want to be with your girlfriend then don't go for your best friend. But honestly, I'm assuming you guys know each other perfectly, probably more than you know yourselves, so that's like... great.

dont think i would handle it, i would get sad and would eventually break up. is it considered cheating ? im reeally not this kind of guy =///