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For example, I loved this girl for a few years, then we stopped talking, and though it took a while, I don't have any feelings for her in the slightest.

So that leads me to the question: If you stop loving them, was it love to begin with, or was it just "puppy love"?

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

It was love, but your definition of love changed, as you matured and grew. As you add upon your self, your priorities change. As those change, what we see as attractive or desirable changes.

True love lasts forever. I loved my ex from a year or so ago. We're not together anymore, but I still have feelings for him. Do I want to be with him again? No, I'm happy as I am. Does that mean I don't love him? No.
I don't think what you were experiencing was puppy love. A few years ago? You were young. You're still young, so it was probably a crush, puppy love, fling, whatever you wanna call it.

I'm not using myself as the precedence. I'm just curious on the whole.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Ah, I see. My misunderstanding. But yeah, I still say, it was probably puppy love. Or it could be that you loved who you thought they were but they changed or something. But I think real love is something you don't lose.

It was love, yes.
Love might last for some time, it can last for a very long time, and in some other occasions it can even last forever. If you felt something for that person, even if it's not valid nowadays, it was true before.
Things come and go. Just like... People when they die - them disappearing doesn't mean they never existed. Know what I mean...?
Ghaa I'm just babbling. Love is too complicated anyway.

Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded !
We are, we are blinded !

Nah I don't think it was legit love. For me, Real love is way more then the common bf/gf love. Like when I was in love with my best friend for four years, and it's still VERY difficult for me. I think that's real love.

But then other exs who i loved but not nearly as strong I think were legit love, and I still do love them in a way.

So I think once you're in love your forever in love, perhaps back then you thought you were in love and never really were?

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

yes when you are together you grow together love grows stronger

but if you are apart for long time you have changed you are new people

and you may not love each other now

Spring showers Bring May flowers

I sometimes find that this is just infatuation when you only speak to girls based on beauty. I believe I have been infatuated before and that is a part of love. Love doesn't have to go away though.

I'd say it was love.

But when you lose track of someone, the fire inside you begins to smolder until it's gone. When you see that person again and you feel the fire rise up again, it's love.