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light · 18-01-12, 02:28 AM

PAST UPDATE
OK, So I've been thinking about talking to my Ex again ad breaking no contact one last time. ( I'll explain later why I say again )..... But before I go any further I'll try and make this short as possible. Me and my Ex we been dating for about a year. Then she decides later she wants too take a break and promised saying she wouldn't talk to anybody during this break or time ( uh huh! )... Anyways, the break was a waste of time and I ended up getting dumped anyways. So then she tells me saying there was no spark blah blah that she wanted to be " Friends with Romantic Interest " I declined because I thought it was FWB and I didn't see her as a material object. So I asked what were her reasons for breaking up with me......

Her Reasons :

-I was too romantic
-I deserve someone better
-I need to be with someone more family oriented
-I was to good for her
-Its not you its me line ( I know classic line -.- )

Also she threw in to me before the end of the breakup a quote from somewhere " "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be." ( At first I didn't get what the heck what it meant, but now I do... )

So yeah she asked if I wanted to be friends first I declined because I was furious and upset about what we had and we didn't break up on bad terms either. I told she been chasing me for so long and now you wanna call it quits. So then she says if you ever wanna hangout, talk or go places let me know. After that we hadn't talked in about a Month. So I decided to break no contact and I approached her at work and pulled her off to aside and asked her if we could talk and still be friends. She tells me that its best that we don't be friends and that it didn't work out. On top of that she didn't want us to stress our other friend out with our issues anymore.( During the relationship of the stage of our immaturity we would go to this one friend and pester her with two arguments we had during our relationship. ) So I when she said that I glanced and shrugged saying " OK " and walked off like it was nothing...

PRESENT :

OK, so its been another Month now gone by and I don't wanna break NC again and look like a Moron or look desperate and needy. SO today at work I'm just minding my own business and lately the Ex hides herself. She did this for a good two weeks. This week she been showing herself a lot of herself lately and let me explain why:

1st: Was around 7 or 8 when she was at the front desk and I was in my department. So she parks her Cart at the nurses desk and stands there with it then leaves it there! and leaves for a second.( For the record she stood there for a good 5 mins fiddling with whatever on her cart. I took it that she was trying to get my attention.. )

2nd : Second time was when she had to Clean the dining room and such in the facility and Normally she is on time never late. So shes in there i look up and shes looking at me and quickly turned her face away from me and hurried up and got out there..

3rd: It was time to leave and I leave around 2:05. She all of a sudden got my timing down of my departure or something. So as I am leaving I notice she saw me going and quickly turns her back on me.

This has been going on since last week Thursday to Tuesday January 17th.....

Right now I need too know seriously what would you guys do in my current condition. Because right now I am truly of thinking of breaking No contact, but before I even do I need words of Advice. And YES! I do wanna be with her and win her back, but I want to hear what you guys gotta offer and bring to the table.

Additional Info:

-shes 21 and I am 25
-I was her real long term bf ... Others she dated only lasted weeks almost to a month
-We work together in different Departments at a Nursing facility

Izziee · 18-01-12, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by light

Her Reasons :

-I was too romantic

For starters I would love my boyfriend to be romantic, also, I think you should go for it. Worse that happens is that she says no and you feel slightly humiliated, however, the best? you get her back!

light · 18-01-12, 07:22 PM

So Izzie if I may ask how should I go about the situation ?

I mean I already approached her one time and that didn't smooth over well ! She recommended we Might as not be friends, but when I approached her she had a smile on her face like she was happy to see me. I can't tell if she was being Manipulative or an ego boost.

Considering she is young, immature and full of games. I would like to hear from a girls viewpoint on how to handle this type of condition.

Thanks also for the reply ^_^

Groovemaster · 18-01-12, 10:50 PM

It is really hard to break contact with anyone who rejects you, people are telling me that me and the girl I gave my heart to need to break contact, and not be friends anymore. I don't really want to stop being friends but that is what people tell me.

Izziee · 19-01-12, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by light

So Izzie if I may ask how should I go about the situation ?

I mean I already approached her one time and that didn't smooth over well ! She recommended we Might as not be friends, but when I approached her she had a smile on her face like she was happy to see me. I can't tell if she was being Manipulative or an ego boost.

Considering she is young, immature and full of games. I would like to hear from a girls viewpoint on how to handle this type of condition.

Thanks also for the reply ^_^

That's quite likely seeing as she is human and a girl. Maybe start with little things? Smile at her when you catch her eye sometimes, bump into her or start conversations not about being friends. That way you're not asking if she wants to, you can see, plus it's less likely she'd reject you if say you brought up a conversation about work, she's unlikely to say "Please, lets not be friends"