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I'm a guy and I have a friend who is a girl and I see her pretty much every weekend, I told her that I have feelings for her and she said she didn't want to lose me as a friend if we broke up as she said she isn't good with relationship stuff, but whats getting me down is that its always me that has to call her, she rarely calls me and 90% of the time doesn't reply to text messages because she says shes been busy.

I just need advice on whether I should bother texting or calling her anymore because when she doesn't reply it makes me feel like I'm being rejected or ignored baring in mind that im hurting from finding out she only wants to be freinds.

So what should I do? Just say "screw her" if she isnt going to reply and see if she calls me or something else?

Sorry to bring this to you, but it's true: you have been friendzoned.
Your new job is to be there when she needs you, and to not be there when she doesn't.

Best you can do? Follow this saying: if you like something, let it go.

I don't know all the details, but I would suggest that you talk to her about it and tell her that it bothers you a bit. But, also, make sure that you're giving her enough space to be alone sometimes and stuff like that. However, if you tell her that it bothers you and she still keeps doing it and insists that she's busy, then it might be time to move on. If she does like you and is your girlfriend, she should be able to make some time for you even if she is busy. Maybe not a whole lot of time but she should be able to make some. So talk to her about it and try and work it out. If that doesn't work and it doesn't get better in time, It might be time to move on to another girl.

I have said in a non serious tone that it makes me feel like shes ignoring me the thing is that when im with her she seems to reply to other people.

I think you should just try and move on. I don't think you should necessarily treat her badly or think of her badly, I just think it wasn't meant to be. If your communication is bad already before you even date, that makes for a crappy relationship on top of her already "bad with relationships" stuff. Plus, Ive found that if as friends someone doesn't make you feel wanted and important to them getting into a relationship is really bad because you then doubt yourself and beat yourself up, or it becomes clingy and infatuated on one side, etc. So I would just try to let this one go. It's gotta be natural and come on its own, ya know? Relationships don't work to be forced.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John ?

I agree with Kate. Moving on is the best option. In fact, I'm not even sure if you want to remain friends with her. She seems to be using you for when she needs you, with little consideration of your own feelings. Frankly, its selfish. I would talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.

I feel as if the "don't want to ruin friendship" excuse is crap. Make her expose the truth.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

i agree with Kate and Jared.It Also Happened to me, my male friend didn't texted me or call me,i was the one who kept on calling and texting him,and i felt sometimes ignored and i felt he talked to me when ever he needed me.
So i ignored him for many days,and so he texted me and called me.
I discussed the matter with him,and that i didn't like his attitude,and so he apologized and now he is more closer to me.You talk about this with her,and if things still don't get settled,MOVE ON.

You know her for a long time? what when she decides to no longer see someone ? is she ignoring that person ? does she replies to texts or stuff ?