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Well, I recently went out with a good friend of mine, we've been friends for years. We went out for about two months, then mutually ended it because he was too busy for a relationship.. he's getting ready to go off to college, and he worked all the time. He also said that he felt that I was a weak person and that I was highly dependent, and that because he was a weak person too, he needed a strong girl to be in a relationship with him. When we ended it, he told me that it was up to me whether or not we should go out again.

I don't want to go out with him again... But I do want to remain the close friends we were. I don't miss him romantically, I miss him as a friend. When we first broke up, of course I was depressed... but I pretty much got over it within a day or two. I was just wondering what's a good amount of time to wait to start communicating with him again? Or should I just wait for him to contact me first?

I'd have to say it's best to give a little bit of time and then start communication, instead of right away. After a breakup there needs to be space, even if it was mutual...it's just nice to take a step back and not deal with the person for a bit. If you guys have been friends for years, then I assume it isn't too awkward right now? Maybe wait a week or so if things are a bit weird. Or even as little as three days. I find that time heals awkwardness (if it's there).

You can start with a simple "hello, how are you?" or "what have you been up to?". Since you are friends, I bet you know what kind of stuff he likes? Maybe bring up a topic you both like and just get chatting again. Be yourself. If the breakup wasn't ugly, there's no reason to make it ugly, you know what I mean? It's good that you've known each other for a long time. You have history.

If he doesn't want to talk, then I guess just let him come to you. If he's gonna be unfriendly after all you went through then I don't think it's worth it. But if he responds back then mission accomplished!

/end ramble. Hope that helped somewhat.

Well. Firstly, make it clear you don't want to be with him. I finished a relationship and was led to believe we could get back together for like 3 months, so please please please clarify it with him.

Secondly - Just got for a coffee and catch up or something, preferably somewhere public (as this again removes the intimacy) I.E don't meet him at a house/go to the cinema

I wouldn't reconnect sound like bad things just waiting to happen

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Don't reconnect unless he attempts to first, and when he does don't lead him on.

How to reconnect? : Go and say hi.

Are you sure you want do that?

I mean EX boyfriend is with reason EX boyfriend ...

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