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I have a problem. So a few weeks ago i broke up with my ex following some good advice. I was able to get over him and meet this great new guy, who's now my best-est friend for life My ex seems to be jealous because every time my friend and him are anywhere near each other, he tries to fight my friend. My friend calmly walks away every time, which only provokes my ex :/ . recently i got into an argument with my ex and he squeezed my hand, it hurt alot. he fractured one of my fingers. He didn't know that he hurt me because i never let it show on my face.

I've already told the authorities on him and they've confiscated his knife etc, and put him on community orders. I still see him time and again and whenever i do he always tries to talk bad about my friend. I think he's bipolar as well since he'd be angry one moment than totally forget about it in the next moment. What should I do?

Well, There isn't way too much you can do, really. Give it some time and see if it changes anything. He might move on after what happened and everything will be okay. However, in the mean time, you should try and avoid him when you can if what he's doing is bothering you. If you don't want to avoid him, Definitely try not to get into a fight with him so he doesn't try and hurt you again (even if he can't control his emotions). When he starts talking about your friend, just change the topic or tell him that you'd rather not talk about that.

Restraining order.

Okay thank you so much

You can't really do much. You're ex has some serious issues that only he can help himself with. You can get a restraining order, but that don't do much for your ex. His issues need tending too.

Do you mean like psychological help?

Stay away from him. I'm serious. Avoid him and if he starts speaking negatively, calmly reply "I'm sorry, but if the conversation isn't going to be pleasant then I don't want to be apart of it. I'll talk to you when you're feeling better." That is, if you even want to talk to him later. I still say stay away from him. He seems quite abusive.

I can actually relate to this on some levels. My ex has mental issues, most likely schizophrenia (we broke up because I felt I was in putting myself in danger), and while he wasn't violent towards me, he WAS in a gang and beat others up. I don't talk to him anymore or hang out with him. On the rare occasion I do see him, I am polite but I don't have a conversation. I certainly do not let him get anywhere near me. People with unstable mental health/issues are not evil people, but they do need help. Tell someone about this if you feel the situation is getting worse and know how to defend yourself if you absolutely have to.

You might want to let your best friend know about what's going on. Maybe they can have a calm chat about it and work something out? If things get violent, call the police. I wish you luck.

I don't think my best friend wants to be anywhere near my ex again, and thanks i'll try that