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Old 21-02-12, 06:06 PM   #1
 
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There is this girl that I have been talking to for a few months now. We had a class together and socialized pretty well, talked most days and help each other on projects. She invited me over her house one night and we hung out, played skyrim and watched netflixs. Seeing her everyday in class really built up our friendship. I asked her to my junior prom and she said yes, we are going next month. I asked her to hang out a few weeks ago, and she said she was busy but we could hang out over break, which is this week. I asked her about it, and got no response. I feel that she is taking this week off like last vacation. *(during winter break she kind of blocked herself off from the world, and stayed at home ignoring everyones texts/calls/ect. then she wrote a rant saying she was sorry about it and she wants to change but it is just her nature) While on vacation she is not forced to be socially active at school, she has a choice of staying at home and being by herself. I feel that this is what happening. I texted her a while ago, and she posted this on her blog.

"there’s this human instinct called “desire for contact with other human beings” and i really really have the opposite feeling"

The only thing is I want to spend some time with her, but she obviously doesn't want to. I'll see her when we get back into school, but I feel it will be a little awkward. I feel like by messaging her with no response, it makes her want to have less and less to do with me. I feel that I should ask her if we are still going to prom together?(really dumb question) I just don't know how to go about building a better relationship with her, when she doesn't want to do anything?
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You two are still going to the prom. I'm an introverted person, by far. I'm the second most introverted person I've ever met, topped only by a guy who literally doesn't talk to anyone or have any friends, I assume by choice. But even I want to be a romantic relationship. She probably does too. Give it a shot.








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Do introverts do better in face to face interaction, like when I'll see her at school? I mean she won't ignore me if I start talking to her at lunch, because that would be flat out rude. But I could also be annoying her by doing so? I just really feel like I am annoying the shit out of her...
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Do introverts do better in face to face interaction, like when I'll see her at school? I mean she won't ignore me if I start talking to her at lunch, because that would be flat out rude. But I could also be annoying her by doing so? I just really feel like I am annoying the shit out of her...
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Does she strike up conversations with you ever?
In person? We sat next to each other in photo, so naturally yes. Online? she used to text me first, but that kind of died off as of last week.

Being introverted, I feel that starting a convo may be hard for them? For like I feel about annoying her, she may feel the same way for it's her way of thinking.
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Starting a convo is very difficult for me, if it's someone I know irl it's much more difficult on the web than in person. Either way it's still difficult for me though. I'd say go for her.








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I just don't know how to go about doing that. Being introverted, she doesn't want to do anything...
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Just go about it as you normally would. She might reject you, but if she doesn't that means she wants to be in a relationship.








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From what I gather from what you said, she's the type of person that needs and enjoys time to herself. She may be introverted, that's true. But it may also be in her personality to need time to herself. It might help her function better or just help her in general. I'm the same way. I need a certain amount of time alone and when I don't get that time, I have the same feeling that she described in her blog. However, I don't think that she doesn't want to have a relationship. I think she wants a certain type of relationship. I think you're handling it pretty well actually. I would just suggest that you give her that time alone, when she shuts herself off like that. That's just how she is and she needs that. Don't text or message her incessantly during that period but make sure you still keep in contact even if she doesn't respond. That shows that you do care about her and that you still want to talk to her. In order to build a better relationship, you might have to take it on her terms. Do as much as possible with her when she can and is willing to do stuff like that. As of right now, don't worry about the prom to much. I'm sure she still wants to go. Just be persistent but not overly and you should be just fine.








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From what I gather from what you said, she's the type of person that needs and enjoys time to herself. She may be introverted, that's true. But it may also be in her personality to need time to herself. It might help her function better or just help her in general. I'm the same way. I need a certain amount of time alone and when I don't get that time, I have the same feeling that she described in her blog. However, I don't think that she doesn't want to have a relationship. I think she wants a certain type of relationship. I think you're handling it pretty well actually. I would just suggest that you give her that time alone, when she shuts herself off like that. That's just how she is and she needs that. Don't text or message her incessantly during that period but make sure you still keep in contact even if she doesn't respond. That shows that you do care about her and that you still want to talk to her. In order to build a better relationship, you might have to take it on her terms. Do as much as possible with her when she can and is willing to do stuff like that. As of right now, don't worry about the prom to much. I'm sure she still wants to go. Just be persistent but not overly and you should be just fine.
I am not in a relationship with her, yet . I want to, but we are just friends at the moment. The class we had together ended last semester. So I only see her in the hallways sometimes. I am in her lunch, but I have been to nervous to go over and sit next to her(she sits with all her friends, and I know none of them.) You said to keep in contact with her, but how so. Like by sending what type of message? you're spot on about caring about her and wanting to talk to her, just I'm not sure how to express that. The prom is march 30, and tickets are on sale when we get back(good excuse to HAVE to talk to her. She is a grade above me, so she has to fill out a stupid permission form, lolwhat) She still needs to get a dress, and I need to know what color/style of corsage to get her....
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