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Old 31-03-12, 09:52 PM   #1
 
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My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship so we rely mainly on social media to connect with each other, one of those being tumblr. I'm sure many of you that tumblr is notorious for hosting topless tuesdays and the like. I know my boyfriend searches for these pictures and I don't mind, it's really no different than looking at girls in porn.

He's complimented girls over tumblr before, telling them they're pretty or have nice smiles etc which made me really jealous, so I confronted him about it and he said he didn't mean anything by it but that he would stop.

Then the other day a post came up on my dash where he told some girl she had a nice ass. This was the last straw for me and I got really angry about it. Since then he's told me that he feels really guilty about it, that it was a bad thing to do and he won't do it again.

However, just today I saw another post by him telling some girl she has a great ass. I want to bring it up again but I'm worried for several reasons

a) I don't want him to think I'm stalking him on tumblr (it's really not that hard, I just have to search his username)
b) he always gets defensive and plays the guilt card, saying he should just delete his tumblr if I can't trust him (evidently I can't if he's done it again after saying he wouldn't)
c) we've been fighting on and off for about a week straight over this and I don't really want to bring it up again, although I am bothered by it

Any advice as to how to treat the situation? x
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You're wayyyy too jealous. You really don't trust him, so he is right in saying you don't.
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You're wayyyy too jealous. You really don't trust him, so he is right in saying you don't.
He gets way more jealous than I do. Sometimes he gets upset just because I've had a conversation with another boy.
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Your relationship is fucked, honestly.

You have no trust in each other when it comes to little things, so how can you rely on him for bigger things?










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Old 31-03-12, 10:10 PM   #5
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Honestly, I think he should respect that what he is doing bothers you. You said tha you fought over this multiple times before?
Maybe if you talk to him again, explain your concerns and that you are hurt by him flirting with other girls. I think if he's serious about your relationship, he will try to do his best to stop.









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I'm not feeling the love...
Sounds like to me there is no trust coming from either side of this relationship, and with it being long distant, that really isn't a good thing.

He also lies to you without caring (using the guilt trip is pathetic in this type of situation, it also shows that he is just using you), which really isn't a good trait in a significant other.




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well becoz itx a long distance relationship i suggest u dnt get too jealous. and he kips on making the sme mistake all ovr maybe he z jst wasting ur tym. i mean y wud he do it agn and agn. unless f he really cnt resist complimenting these galz!
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Just because you don't like your boyfriend flirting with other people doesn't mean your relationship is fucked. You're being completely normal. It also doesn't mean you don't trust him.

I trust Kirk not to cheat on me, I know he won't, but if he told another girl she had a nice ass I'd be freaking livid..even if I knew he'd never do anything.
It's normal. Just tell him how you feel and that it upsets you, if he doesn't care and carries on then he's probably an asshole.
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Two things here:

1) You are in an LDR. You don't offer him the full relationship, so he goes searching for more. You can't stop him, so why try?

2) You are way too jealous. He can't be nice to other girls because you go apeshit? Please, just leave him alone. Forever. You won't be able to have a healthy relation with the guy.








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