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So a friend of mine is completely gay. I know this for a fact. He told me, and it's very obvious. But there's something that he told me today which sparked my interest in wondering and then decided to ask everyone. He likes a girl for the first time in years. I mean, like, five years since he realized it. It hasn't happened to me, and I don't know how to help him. He feels really weird about it and he's questioning his sexuality now. But she's the only girl that he's noticed. Does that mean that he's bi rather than gay?

It would appear so.

A lot of bisexuals are attracted more strongly to one gender than the other. Your friend must be alot more attracted to men than women.

I think when you stick a label on yourself, you tend to get confused with your identity when things like this happen.

I would still consider him gay unless he's sexually attracted to a girl. Even if you're homosexual, you can still have heteromantic tendencies, but heterosexual tendencies, would definitely be bisexuality or heterosexuality.

*Oh, and btw, I DO throw rage fits.
If I get overly aggressive at you, just ignore me.

Overall, if you need help, please feel free to ask me for it.

IMO the fact that we have to discuss which label fits is proof that labels at our age are a waste of time.

I got a long story about a "gay" guy that was gettin more sex with girls than all of my friends put together (not hard to do by the way), but i'm just sayin...

Why does your friend have to limit himself to one gender or another when it's obvious that all that is not settled for him yet. Let him worry about which sexuality he is when he's grown and it makes a difference.

The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
Albert Einstein

Okay, I'm considered Bi, but I don't know if I am, I question it because I usually don't really care about girls sexually, but like them mentally.. That's probably what he is going through.

Ask him if he likes girls sexually, or that one person.

Personally, I feel that attraction is an extremely subjective thing. There are times when you get attracted to people sexually and then there're those where you fall for someone's personality. It's rather complicated.

Maybe this friend of yours likes this girl for her personality. I've had friends before who maintained that although they won't mind sleeping with a guy, but it's only girls they'd bond with, emotionally.

I totally agree with @Shawn K. , it's worthless to worry about what label you belong to.

i think that labelling yourself to be gay during your teens can be very limiting as you are still growing up and there is a lot that you may not know about yourself yet, this includes your sexuality. I think that you should tell your friend to do what he feels he wants to do, not what he should do because he considers himself gay hope this helps sort of aha

or its a girl crush dunno ... maybe

Anybody can become angry , Thats really easy ...
but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

People should stop sticking labels on themselves before they know who they are, teenage years are confusing, and you haven't even fully developed, and to be honest, you hardly know what life is about.

Lots of personality disorders CAN'T be diagnosed in your teen years because you're still growing as a person, your morals, your views, everything.

I didn't choose the thug life

My mom picked it out for me at walmart

Definitely! Because, he would never be attracted to her if he were a straight gay.