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Old 29-05-12, 10:49 PM   #1
 
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I'm not very experienced in the dating scene and need some help.

I met a girl online (classy i know) and went on a couple dates and have been texting and whatnot and it is apparant that she is really, really into me. She waited a month and a half between our dates and didnt go out or see anybody else, she text me that shes missing me after 4 days, she sends me good morning/night texts, every message ends in handsome, or baby. She introduced me to her family and friends like we are dating. That all sounds very good, but I'm not into her. She is nice, and funny, and we have alot in common. fooling around with her was fun (we didnt have sex but she wants to) which i shouldnt have done, but did because i was under the influence of "new girl syndrome".

I'd rather grab a 6 pack and play xbox with her than date her, if that makes sense? How can I let her down nicely? I could get into a relationship with her, bang her a few times then tell her I dont see this working out, but shes too nice and deserves better. She needs to find somebody who cares for her as much as she does for them, and at the momment thats not me. What should I do? I can't see a nice way of breaking this to her :(
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Old 30-05-12, 01:33 AM   #2
 
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There is no "nice" way unfortunately, all you can really do is be straight with her, just tell her your not feeling it and you like her as more a friend than a lover. She'll be upset, but it's better than using her like some guys no doubt would.




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Old 30-05-12, 03:26 AM   #3
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Yeah, there's nothing you can really do here except let her down nicely. I wouldn't let this kind of thing happen again- you played her quite terribly.








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Old 30-05-12, 07:36 AM   #4
 
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I think u should just tell her the truth rather than comforting her with a lie.
Being a girl I can totally understand what she will feel for a moment , but after maybe 2-3 days she will understand you.
Try it !
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Old 30-05-12, 08:16 AM   #5
 
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I am invited to a party shes going to be at, and I think its better to tell her sooner than drag it out and have it end up hurting her more. The only thing is the it is going to be hard telling somebody i am not into them, while i know they will be all over me the whole time :/
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Yeah wow you've been playing her horribly.. Why would you even mess around with her? I get it's the new girl but still...


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Default Re: What should I do? HELP!

There's no nice way to break it to someone that you're not into them. No matter how you say it, they will always feel a little broken inside.

Try and reason with her and say, "Look, I know we've had fun and you're a great girl, but I am afraid I don't feel quite as strongly as you do for me." Something along those lines. It's a tough situation to be in. I've only broken up with 2 guys, and I've had a lot of boyfriends!

I hear you on the xbox thing! But try and make sure she knows that she wasn't just a "root and boot" as they say.








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