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I have been working with a girl that I liked for a long time. She knows I liked her and told me that she just wants to be friends because she likes a different guy, which is cool with me. I always listen to her problems and give her advice and encouragement, but the one time I tried telling her a problem of mine, she blew me off. This hurt me, so I seperated from her. At one point she actually cried because I wouldn't talk to her, so I expressed my hurt to her, and she told me that she really did like me all along. Today we hung out to discuss how we feel about each other, and I asked her what she meant by it, and why she never told me. She refused to say anything and only told me that "she had her reasons" The entire time I got the feeling that she didn't really like me like that, and it hurt knowing that she lied to me for no reason, especially since I was just getting over her. I have texted her asking why she did what she did, but she hasn't responded and it has been a while........ Why would she do this?

It doesn't matter why she did what she did. What matters is the truth, and unfortunately it hurts all the time. She's not into you, if she was she'd dump that other guy. So stop getting yourself sick over things you can't change.

People can be nasty sometimes. Unfortunately, you met someone who doesn't really know how to let someone down easily. You did the right thing by telling her how you feel and that she hurt you. That was a very smart move. I don't think you should waste your time on her anymore. She obviously doesn't want anything to do with you so don't bother chasing something that will keep on running until you give up. I'm not trying to sound harsh, I'm just a little blunt sometimes.

Don't waste your time hun. She's not worth it.

fuck society and their opinions.

Agree with this.
If she liked you, she wouldn´t be seeing this other guy anymore.
She just wants attention and since she knows you dig her, she knows how to get it.
The truth is harsh isn´t it.

No she isn't seeing him, she has a crush on him, but he only likes her as a friend. I know because he is a good friend of mine..... I just don't understand why she would tell me she likes me, but then just ignore me. It sucks.

She sounds like she's just trying to keep you close, maybe because she told you she likes him and she's scared of him finding out if you got pissed?

She sounds like she's messing you around too much, could be intentional or maybe not. My advice is to move on and get over her. She doesn't sound worth it to me.

Yeah, I stand in this camp. I think you just need to drop her. Sure, it's certainly difficult, and it certainly sucks. But I think, even after you told her straight up, she' still messing with you, then there's a problem. You're worth more than that.

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”- Nelson Mandela

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Why does she do this? That is the question you will come to in life many many times, and IMO, the most time wasting question of all.
Why did I not get the job? Why does she not like me?
Why did I not get accepted to my choice of college?
Why is my mom sick with cancer?
Why do I have cancer?

I know I am blowing your question out of context and proportion, but the thing is, it doesnt matter.
You did nothing wrong.
The time and place and environment was not right for you.

life is so much more fun if you just accept the pain, and move on forward.
GOod luck!!