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Old 23-04-13, 05:47 PM   #1
 
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My boyfriend still has pictures and "i love you" posts on facebook from his past relationship with his ex and I can't help but burn with jealousy when ever I read or see those posts and pictures. I know he's with me now, but who's to say he doesn't want to get back with his ex? His tells me he doesn't, but he was the dumpee, so he may still have feelings for her.
My boyfriend and I have been together since February 3rd 2013. My boyfriend and I live in two different towns and we live a little more than an hour and a half apart. We only get to see each other once a month (twice this month because we have april break). I don't know any of his friends, and so I would never know if he were cheating on me. I know I should trust him and I'm an awful girl friend for doubting him, but he could easily untag himself in those pictures of him and his ex making out on facebook. His ex recently put up pictures of them together even though they're obviously not together anymore. He said he'd never go back with her, but she seems to want to be with him again. They're closer, and she's older than me, and she's wayyyy prettier than me, and I'm terrified that he's going to leave me for her for the convenience. Is it normal to worry that he's going to leave me? My heart sinks every I see those pictures of them on facebook together. And I hate seeing posts from her saying "I love you babe" and "you're the most amazing thing that ever happened to me babe". It hurts even more reading things that he wrote to her. How do I get over this jealousy? It's eating me alive, and it really hurts me emotionally.
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Old 23-04-13, 05:50 PM   #2
 
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Default Re: Is jealousy normal in a new relationship?

Don't think he's unfaithful without a reason, his first instinct may not be to untag himself.


Just talk to him, if he's worth keeping he will listen and you two can work something out.
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Id honestly just ask him to untag them. If he's all yeah sure no problem, well she's gonna realize and if he really wanted her, he'd realize she'd realize then get hurt/pissed and lose his chance with her. So, just explain because you care about him that seeing him with her just hurts. I think that's pretty normal for everyone. I wouldn't even say it's really jealousy or at least not over the top. Who the hell wants to see their man with another woman let alone shovin' tongue. And just be honest, be like it hurts me to see those pics esp as we're long distance and I trust you but you keeping them worries me that you don't want to/didn't let go. Just be HONEST. You should be telling your man of your worries and insecurities, not us. People are too complicated with dating now a days, just be honest, be upfront and talk to HIM. (not saying don't ask for help, but people need to stop being so worried about what their partner will think) you are who you are, if he doesn't like your thoughts and your worries then he's not gonna like you, you can't hide those just so he likes you. Be honest and upfront about everything and compromise and work together.
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Talking and trust is what is the basis of all relationships, I suggest talking to him say what you need to say
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Default Re: Is jealousy normal in a new relationship?

When a ex was important in the life, you can't ask take away the memories, removed the pictures etc but i understand. My bf has kept pictures of his ex-gf, gifts. They went out for two years. You have to try and trust. Sometimes, your bf/gf keep in touch with each other. When a guy sincerely loves you, i think you can trust him.
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