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Old 04-10-17, 11:53 AM   #1
 
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the past summer during internship I met someone who now became my girlfriend. She's 6 years older than me. She's already working while i still go to university. We started like sisters and there have been so many surprising things between us that normally don't happen when I'm with anyone else. Ok let's get to the point--we've been dating for a while. My dad already knows her cause she drove me home twice but dad just knows that she's a friend from work. My mom just knows her name but has never met her yet. This Saturday we plan to have our first overnight trip out of town and I don't know what to tell mom cause I have never been on an overnight trip with only one friend like this. And I'm afraid of telling her about us at this moment cause I'm not sure if she's gonna let me go this weekend. I'm 50percent positive that mom will understand my relationship but still I'm afraid that she will be monitoring us. My girlfriend she doesn't have problem since she's alreay working so her mom won't be like mine. Please help.




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Hey Abby, great to see you again

As for telling your parents, you have a choice, and depending on your relationship with your parents, you should choose what you think is best.

1) Tell them before you go.
Pros:
* They are aware your "friend" is less likely to abandon you, leaving you on your own
* They will know that the two of you are close, so there's less likelihood of her trying to get you to do something you wouldn't normally do (e.g. drugs)

Cons:
* They may start asking you about your sexuality/sex life, and if you're only going away to do that sorta thing.
* They may flat out tell you that you can't go (but I'd assume you're old enough now for their word to be as worthless as a penny)
* They may ask you awkward questions (i.e. relationship questions) when you get back

2) Wait until you get back to tell them
Pros:
* They won't ask you any awkward questions when you get home

Cons:
* You will probably be bombarded with questions such as "Why didn't you tell us before you went?" when you get home


At the end of the day. You're a big girl now, your parents can't stop you living your life. Do as you wish, and if that annoys them, so be it.
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Thank you so much Jordan.
I already dediced to tell mom... I was hesitating but my brother (the only one who knows about this) said that we shouldn't have secrets withmom and that she would understand.
So I told mom (on the phone) not only that I'm having a trip with just one girl, but also that she is my girlfriend. And I think I made a big mistake. Mom sounded disappointed and sad, because I have a girlfriend not boyfriend. I tried to make her understand and I explained to her what we're going to do on the trip and that we always do good things together. We're not gonna do that sort of thing of course, and we're gonna exchange books that we like, go to the waterpark, and walk around, and just spend time with each other like good friends. When I told mom that she's my GIRLFRIEND she said that it's not girlfriend but you should say A VERY CLOSE FRIEND, like she ccouldn't accept it :( I cried so hard and told her that I know what I'm doing and that she can trust me I won't do anything inappropriate and will take good care of myself.
I know now that I was wrong to tell her about this. But there's no turning back for me. I wanna have good relationship with my parents but also don't wanna tell lies anymore.

Do you have any advice for me for after this? We're really like sisters. It feels so good, and the furthest thing We do is just kissing... Thank you in advance




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