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Had the A level thing at my school tonight and I'm pretty sure about what I want to do. Unfortunately, my friend took applied science this year because she couldn't be bothered doing all the work entailed with the ordinary one. this cut her off from all sciences at A level and psychology, which she has now decided she wants to do.

So now me and my friend Edd are stuck. She has decided that there is no point in her doing A levels and will just piss off to a college and have a miserable life, because she doesn't want to be tutored and doesn't want to ask a teacher what her options are. We can't convince her otherwise and we're getting pretty pissed off with her 'I'm going to have a miserable life and there's nothing I can do about it' attitude when there is something she can do about it.

Anyone got any ideas on how to convince her? The only one I can think of is telling our physics teacher who we're good friends with and try to get him to convince her but i know that she'll kill me and be in a foul mood from it.

I remember this happening to one of my friends when I was picking A levels. He couldn't be bothered to study and couldn't see what effect/affect it would have on his life. I think you're doing a really good thing by trying to help her see that she's limiting her options and I don't think you should give up yet.

Go to your physics teacher and see if there's anything he can say to her about the situation. He might make her realise what she's doing and that studying now will open many more doors for her. OK, she'll be pissed off at you for a while but chances are she'll come around once she's realised what you've done for her. Alternatively, speak to tutors, heads of houses, whoever you have in your school that you think can help. Maybe, once they're aware of the situation, they can help her and show her that she is a bright girl and shouldn't just give up.

Ultimately though, it's her decision. We learn in life my making mistakes and maybe, if you can't persuade, you have to make her make this mistake in life. She'll realise one day that she chose the wrong path, and hopefully then she'll change her attitude towards it. It's a harsh way to look at it but if she's refusing to listen then there's not much more you can do apart from stand down and let her lead the life she wants to lead.

Hope this helps

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She might not have a miserable life at college, a lot of people enjoy going there and it is up to her what she does as it is her life after all. If you have spoke to her about it and she still does not listen then so be it. You cannot force someone to do something if they do not want to, no matter how pissed off you are getting with her. If she makes a mistake then she will learn from it.

If she wants to study something, she can probably get onto the course on probation.
My school had that, if you didnt have the grades you got to take the subject and they just made sure they were capable. funny thing is they never actually chuck someone of a course, its just called 'probation'

However if she's not willing to work, well A levels are a lot of work..
and why would she have a crap time in college? Maybe it will be different at first, but she would get used to it.
I guess you have to talk her into asking what her options are, she should really find out before she decides her life is gonna be miserable.

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Thank you for the help. And I'm not saying that she'll have a crap time in college, but it isn't the place for her. She's always wanted to do A-levels and now that she has less of a choice with the ones she can do, and has realised how much work it is, she has just decided to wallow in a hole and not do anything. It's more her words than mine about pissing off to a college. She really wants to do this criminology course at Southampton university and she knows that if she can't do the A-levels she wants to, then she won't get in. Although she does want to be a police officer and I once said that a public services course at the college might be right for her but she was set dead against it.

Tell her to apply for both, to be on the safe side. It's a good idea to do that anyway. Then you've got more time to help her decide what's right for her =)