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Let me start off by saying I'm a worry wart. I'm also currently in a relationship with a guy that I am highly happy with, and I've always had boyfriends, which is why I'm assuming I'm for the most part straight.
However, there's this girl that I work with that went to my school when I was younger. Her brother and I are the same age and were in the same grade school and are decent friends, so i knew of her when I was little and was always impressed with her beauty. I always thought she was very pretty.
Now she works at the same store as me, and I've never really talked to her but sometimes I see her and I'm like "BAM She's so gorgeous!" and I can't help but stare a bit. And then I began to worry about why I was staring, and that turned my phobia of being gay on (I find nothing wrong with homosexuals, I just have a weird fear that I somehow will turn gay that really makes no sense, I'm considering I just have some OCD). So whenever she came near me I got nervous and paranoid and avoided going near her. I am not really interested in anything sexual with her, I've tried to think of it in my head but I get this swelling of fear and a bit nauseous of the situation so I'm not sure if that's because I am not attracted to her at all, or if I'm scared of being attracted to her. I also kept wanting to stare at her to kind of "test' myself because I was so worried I might have a crush on her. I don't know exactly why I reacted the way I did to how she looked. I mean she looks perfect! All the guys at work find her hot, and I could understand why. She kinda reminds me of Megan Fox, and when she's walking around to me it's like "she looks like a celebrity". I really don't know what my reaction was persay.
This has happened maybe once or twice where I've met a really gorgeous girl and couldn't help but stare. I don't know what this means, was I attracted to them? or really admired their beauty? I don't really go home and think about this girl or anything, this paranoia and analyzing only really happens when I see her at work. As soon as I see she's working, i wanna avoid her because of it. Is this normal? Geez what's going on with me? _-_ I may have forgotten other things to say cause my head feels like it's gonna explode, so if you need any clearing up or have any questions please ask. ^.^
There we go, is that better? =D Sorry about that, it was a concern of mine but I figured I was just a blind bat. I apologize X_x I hope now you can read it.
It might just be that when you see a really attractive woman you continuously stare at her because you feel that you want to be like her?
Like in a magazing; a woman would look at the main image and if it's a woman and she's beautiful they buy it because they inspire to be like her
Women in magazine's are mostly glamorous and stylish. This captivates the audience and makes them think that if they buy the magazine and apply the same things, they in turn will be more glamorous.
Maybe it's a little like that and when you look at that woman you admire her beauty?
You know I'm gonna find a way to let you have your way with me, You know I'm gonna find a time to catch your hand and make you stay.
I don't care what clothes you wear, it's time to love and I don't care, You know I'm gonna find a way to let you have your way with me.
It's okay to think of another women as cute or hot. Cause they might be! I can say that Angelina Jolie is a really hot women, though I am not sexually attracted to her. Don't worry you're not gonna turn gay cause of the way she looks.
It really has to do with being comfortable with yourself sexually. Your probably still in that zone where you're unsure about your sexuality and seeing someone super sexual like that you can't help but to think about it. But it happens to a LOT of people. Lots of people question if they are straight or not, and it's up to you to figure it out. If you are sure though then move on. I would say face your fear and talk to her. COMPLIMENT her. Say she looks cute in that outfit or something. You don't have to be afraid of these feelings - you're not going crazy, maybe just over thinking things. Just chill out a bit.
Thanks everyone for the responses! I actually haven't seen in her a long time, but the more I think about it the more I come to terms that I'm not sexually interested in her at all, I just find her extremely pretty and I admire that in her. But to be confident, I'm going to strike conversation next time with her and follow TellTheTruthNow's advice and compliment her, which will mostly likely be her hair. It's so pretty!
And Itachi, I think you're very accurate in how I might view her. Like I said, she reminds me of a celebrity. I see her and think "How can ANYONE be that pretty? What are her flaws?!"
Because you've known her for a long time and you've always thought she was beautiful, I think the reason that you atare at her is because you admire her. It's ok to find a girl hot or attractive or pretty without being sexually attracted to her and because you said that you only think about her when you see her at work, it shows that you're not longing for her. You probably don't have a crush on her I don't think but you stare at her the same way as you would stare at Megan Fox if she came into the store (you said that's how you see her).
Starting a conversation with her and breaking the ice is a very good idea. It will loose the tension between you and you'll feel a lot more comfortable around her. If you compliment you'll feel better knowing you can say and think those things without necessarily having a crush on her. You're just being kind and friendly.
Good luck.
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Quick update, yeah I don't think I'm into her in that way. I went to work and was at my lane and saw her walking towards me, and she got into the lane right beside me and immediately turned around and struck up conversation. I was a bit taken back at first, because I wasn't expecting her to talk to me, and for her to be so friendly. I was quickly comfortable talking with her, and I'm not so star struck now when I see her. We say hi to each other and joke around, and I have absolutely no sexual feelings for her whatsoever. So I spose it's safe to say that I am not attracted to her; although she's still very pretty and I really admire her as a person.
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