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Well, I'm not really sure how to put this, but I turned 15 at the beginning of summer and since i lost my virginity at 13 I've had sex with 14 different guys (to my knowledge) about 3 times each. Sex has become one of the only things my life revolves around and has gotten me a really bad reputation, along with the drug use that started around the same time I lost my virginity. I've already been through therapy I'm completley hopeless and need advice?
It's difficult to get rid of any kind of addiction. Sex addictions too.
But if you went through terapy, you should've lost it by now.
If not, i'd go to someone who can help you.
In the meantime, no porn, and no boys. Except ugly creepy ones like me. They will lose your lust even faster.
I think that, if you've already trialed theraphy, you need to look elsewhere for advice, i.e. somewhere more professional than a forum designed for teenagers seeking advice often anonymously!
I'm not saying that there isn't help for you here, just that it sounds as though you need concentrated help from somebody that understands your issue or has the resources to help you thoroughly and physically.
Have you tried various and/or different methods of therapy, and are you continuing it now or did you give it up? It might be worth contacting whoever you were seeing before and seeing if you can be referred to somewhere or someone more to your liking.
My impression is that it would help if you could determine why you've felt the need for so many sexual partners, and why you've becomed so focused on it.
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Well first things first, i hope your using a condom and the pill or some other contriception of some kind. I think you need to seek professional advice on drugs, and try different methods instead of drugs for example meditation. As for the sex part, i think you need to settle down into a relationship with one person long enough to know their sticking around and therefore your feelings cannot be hurt as much. Hope this helped.
^ Addiction isn't necessarily correlated to age - there are even children born with inherit methadone addictions.
And whilst sex is normally 'healthy', excessive sex that interferes with your day-to-day functionality and quality of life isn't.
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Last edited by bambi vision; 02-11-10 at 08:42 AM..
First, one cannot be 'addicted' to sex in the conventional way we think of addiction.
What is clear is that the OP's sexual behavior is beyond her control at this point, in much the same way that she reports her drug use. Self control often spans many abilities, so it's not surprising that there are a few instances where these gaps exist. But it's not caused by some biological or psychological force beyond control.
Looking at this as a self control issue (and as Bambi rightly observes) one that interferes with 'typical' social functioning and is potentially self destructive, the OP would do well to try to understand what forces are behind her inability to control these urges, as well as why they are so strong in the first place. very often, sexual promiscuity results from childhood sexual abuse.
We have control over urges and impulses, regardless of how strong they are. If you cannot control them yourself, it's time to find someone who can help you understand and manage them better. Until then, make sure you're using condoms!
The stuff you described sounds very similar to me, would love to chat, I ended up in some bad situations but now have a really nice boyfriend and dont mind the way I am x
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Sex addiction help for a 15 year old girl?
just that it sounds as though you need concentrated help from somebody that understands your issue or has the resources to help you thoroughly and physically.
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