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New to the forums,

Can't believe I'm actually posting this, but here's what's up. I'm 19. All throughout high school I was the horniest kid, I was with some girl for almost 2 years and even though the sex sucked it was still decent for high school. We broke up because of some things that happened when I moved to Florida for school and I got really depressed about it, after I graduated from Florida I moved to Cali for a few months to try and find a job. I was still somewhat depressed and missed my friends and family so I moved back home.

I recently started dating the most amazing girl in the world. I cannot find one thing wrong with her, and I am FINALLY happy. The only problem is whenever we try to have sex it takes me so long to get hard enough to put it in her. Sometimes I try so hard to get hard myself, or she'll give me head, that as soon as I get hard I want to bust before we even have sex. It's ridiculous! I was never like this in high school. I'm still horny all the time and so is she, I'll usually make her have an orgasm before we have sex so she's satisfied either way, but it sucks not being able to fuck her because I want to so badly, but when I'm in her either I get soft or I bust after a few seconds.

It could be from not having sex in almost 2 years, and not masturbating in months, because I have had a roommate since high school ended and there's no privacy at all. I also am under a lot of stress with trying to pay my school loans, and looking for a career, and was depressed for a few months back.

I explained this to her and she completely understands, but it's still ridiculous, because this never use to happen, not at all. We're together all the time and it could not be more perfect. I think this may need to happen a few more times until I'm back on track with having sex on a daily basis.

I'll also add, I go to the gym everyday, for atleast 2 hours. I eat rather healthy, for being 19 and living on my own. Fast food every now and then though. I drink coffee like crazy though, and have a VERY high metabolism, so I am constantly hungry, a lot of the times during sex. I love to drink, not an alcoholic, but I drink a lot, and smoke occasionally.

Is anyone else having similar situations?

[MontrealRepresent]

Probably because you drink and smoke. That's all I can think of really. I drink as well but this doesn't happen to me so I don't know, guess it affects people differently.

[ThreeDog]

Sooo, what exactly is the problem here? Not being able to have sex?
I'd say it's the smoking and drinking. Those things are never good.
But really, not being able to bone a girl isn't the end of the world. Love is more then sex...

[Darkness_Prevails]

It's not that you have a low libido. As you said before, you're still horny quite a bit. There's numerous things that can prevent you from getting hard enough. You might have performance anxiety or the alcohol might be affecting you. It also might have to do with your mentality (that's usually what causes things like this.)

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I didn't want to respond until now, because it happened again. I'll explain the past few weeks.

We probably fool around every other day on average. She'll always give me head and sometimes I'll want to bust within seconds, but other times she could go for an hour and I won't bust at all, and would end up getting soft.

I'm usually really hard when we are just chilling at a party making out on the couch, but then once we start fooling around and I'm fingering her for a good half hour, by the time I want to go in I'm soft, so then she'll give me head but when I get hard from that I want to bust.

So the other night, we were drinking and feeling real good. We went to my bed and rather than fool around first I just took off our clothes and had sex right away. It lasted for about 5 minutes but I didn't even bust, and it was great.

A couple days later (which would be tonight). I went over to her house and we were fooling around again. We wanted to have sex but I wasn't hard so she started giving me head and as soon as I got hard enough I wanted to bust. What the hell?! This didn't happen the other night, so we wait a few seconds and she gets on top and just starts shoving it in, I wasn't that hard so I start really trying to. I was in for maybe 7 seconds until I threw her off of me because I came.

I have no idea why this is happening, sometimes I don't even bust, but other times it happens after seconds.

This never use to happen before. I use to get instantly hard out of nowhere. I moved to Florida for a year for school,then California for a few months, and didn't have anyone throughout those times, its like that fucked me up some how.

We are in love too, and she is so understanding when this happens. It just pisses me the fuck off.