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My bus is like always super freaky and people like make out on it all the time lol but on Friday it got really crazy. There was me (the only girl and I'm a freshman), a freshman boy who ill call Kane, another freshman boy who ill call Nick and a junior who ill call Mark. So we always have this weird bus tradition where we steal each others' shoes its called 'initiation' its really weird but I took Marks shoes and threw them but when he got them back he bent me over and spanked me really hard while the guys laughed. Then we also have a tradition of stealing seats so while Mark got up to throw something away I jumped in his seat and laid in it on my stomach so he couldn't see me. Then Mark, Kane, and Nick all laid on top of me and pinned me down and Mark tickled me and I couldn't do anything about it and I begged them to stop but they didn't for a long time and I started screaming and groaning, then Kane was like thrusting his elbow in my butt and it really hurt but i couldn't do anything about it because I was pinned down. Then when I was still pinned down by the other two Mark stood over my head so that his balls were literally in my face while he squeezed my butt and they all watched. It was dark so I actually think that more than one of them were squeezing my butt. It was a really weird experience and actually kind of scary because truthfully they could have done anything they wanted to me. I'm kind of scared to go back on the bus on Monday. Is this sexual harassment? What should I do?
Im guessing they're your friends?
If they are, then stop being friends with them. If you keep hanging out with them they will think that you are ok with what they did so they will go further.
Try to avoid them, they will understand.
If they persist tell someone about it...
No, its not, because you initiated it. This is what guys do. While what they did was stupid and immature, its not like they were raping you. You enabled them. Just talk to them on Monday and explain to them that that wasn't alright.
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No, its not, because you initiated it. This is what guys do. While what they did was stupid and immature, its not like they were raping you. You enabled them. Just talk to them on Monday and explain to them that that wasn't alright.
How in god's name did she initiate it? She didn't sit that way so she could be assaulted.
Yes, this is considered sexual harassment, or some form of it. Whether or not you sat some way, or laid some way, it does not give them the right to touch you or do what they did. You told them to stop, and they didn't. That makes it wrong. You need to report it right away. There is no excuse for their actions, whether you're a friend or not, for anyone to do that to you.
I get what you're saying Catch, but it's like this: If I get naked in front of my boyfriend, I'm initiating it right? Okay, but if he gets on me and for some reason I change my mind and say "No," he is not allowed to do anything to me because I don't want it. She was scared and told the boys to get off of her. It doesn't matter what she did that makes you feel like she initiated it. And I don't even think she was enabling them. No where did she do anything that I feel warranted a "Hop on and squeeze my ass."
What they did was wrong, and you shouldn't have had to go through that. Talk to a teacher or your friends. But really, I'd recommend a teacher, because they should not think that behavior is okay in a school setting, or any setting for that matter.
Nah not really, I mean it's sexually playing no doubt but it's not "harassment" You weren't screaming for them to stop really, and they were just playing. And, you kept doing things to only the one guy so.. it prob gave him the wrong idea. Basically Id just say tell them to not do it again then take action if they still do. They probably just thought they were playing around..
Also, how old are yous? that has a lo9t to play into it.
And your bus sounds miserably immature and annoying.. Id be pissed if people stole my shoes and seat regardless of a game or not, the game is stupid
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From a friendly whatever "initiate" play they had between them as a group of friends, to that guy sitting on her face is a long way my friend. And if she started screaming and moaning, thats not normal
to the OP:
But just play it cool and try to avoid that game, they prob will stop if you dont join them in that game again
Last edited by Makaveli_the_Don; 22-01-12 at 05:12 PM..
Hmm. Ok, I agree with both Jenna and Makaveli are saying. I would report it to a teacher- they need to get their shit together, and should face some punishment. However, I don't suggest pressing charges.
"Things change and friends leave. And life doesn’t stop for anybody. I wanted to laugh. Or maybe get mad. Or maybe shrug at how strange everybody was, especially me. You can’t just sit there and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. We could all sit around and wonder and feel bad about each other and blame a lot of people for what they did or didn’t do. Because it’s okay to feel things. I feel infinite."- The Perks of Being a Wall Flower
She told them to stop about the tickling, not everything. And the balls in the face could be innocent mistake, especailly depending on the age. What they did was wrong but I think you should at least talk to them and see how they react before you tell on them.
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Bright eyes
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Betrayed by sunrise
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idk if it's called harrassement, but i definetely would not be happy if a guy randomly started squeezing my ass. since they are your friends, talk to them about it. tell them that you didnt feel comfortable and you would apprciate if they didnt do that again. if they still do, get new friends. and cut off all communications with these guys
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