[4evrr]

First off obviously I'm new to the forums, so hello.

As for my problem, I never really thought this would happen sense mostly I hear guys seem to have more of a premature ejaculation thing going, no offense. Anyways, to actually get useful advice and help with this I think I need to explain some things about me and the situation.

I'm a very patient person and I been a virgin up until now because I only believe in doing things with someone you love and want to be serious with. I been in a long distance relationship for months. I didn't even intend for the relationship to happen but shes such a beautiful person, shes so caring and sweet and I really like her. I finally got to see her recently and shes even nicer in person. It was a little strange at first but I really like her.

We spent some time together the first day and things actually moved pretty fast we went to doing things like touching and oral the first night she stayed. After talking for so long we sort of had nowhere else to go, we knew we loved each other already. She could only stay for a few days because of work though, we didn't want to go further than that in such a short visit.

I don't think anything was wrong with the sex at all. We both enjoyed it. She said what she liked and I did it. She had really intense orgasms. I was less experienced so she sort of started doing things and I said what was good and not good from there. After a while it was really good for me too but I just never came. She felt really bad she couldn't get me off.

I don't understand, I like her and she turns me on. The things we do are really good for me but I just can't come. I really don't want her to feel bad about this. She tries really hard to make me have an orgasm and makes sure shes doing everything right. She isn't even pressuring me or anything but when it doesn't happen she just feels bad. She's gone now but I'm going to see her again pretty soon and I don't want it to be that way again. Any ideas why this is happening to me?

[Cadet]

It could be because it was your first time and you were just nervous. If you feel nervous or think about it too much, it can be difficult to actually cum. Do you masturbate? Do you cum then? If you know what you might like, let her know like she did for you. If you don't masturbate try it and see if you can get yourself to orgasm yourself.
The next time you see her and things get to that level, just try different things and find out what you like best. See if any of that works.

[Shawn K.]

Dude I asked my dad and uncle about this, and they both said what Cadet said. From the post it sounds like the farthest you went was oral, they both said some guys have a harder time coming from oral than other stimulation. And they both said, if you've come before, you will learn to come with this girl.

[Darkness_Prevails]

It might be because you are nervous, as was already pointed out. However, there are other reasons which may cause a similar reaction. If you aren't used to the sensations nor the rhythm at which you were going at, a guy might find it hard to come the first few times that he does it. Luckily, there's a solution that's pretty easy. You just have to get more practice at it. Good thing is that's the solution to being nervous and not being used to the sensations that come along with it. So don't worry about it too much. You'll be alright.

[4evrr]

Originally Posted by darkness_prevails

It might be because you are nervous, as was already pointed out. However, there are other reasons which may cause a similar reaction. If you aren't used to the sensations nor the rhythm at which you were going at, a guy might find it hard to come the first few times that he does it. Luckily, there's a solution that's pretty easy. You just have to get more practice at it. Good thing is that's the solution to being nervous and not being used to the sensations that come along with it. So don't worry about it too much. You'll be alright.

Thanks for the advice. That's what I thought more or less. I just wish she didn't feel bad when it doesn't happen because I don't think theres anything wrong with what we're doing at all. It's good, I'm just not used to it.