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Old 05-04-12, 08:12 AM   #1
 
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Okay So I Just Started Haing Sex With A Guy I've Known For About 3 Months Now. He's 22 & I'm 18. The Thing Is He Likes A Take Charge Type Of Girl. Something I've Never Done. I'm Really Unexperienced Sexually So I'm Still On ThatShy Part Of Things. He Wants Me To Be On Top & Ride. But When I Get On Top I Freeze Up Like A Deer In HeadLights & He Ends Up Getting Fustrated & I Get Mad At Myself.

SomeOne Please Help. I Need Some Pointers On What To Do & How To OverCome This Shyness
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You shouldn't be on top if you aren't even comfortable with sex yet.
it's something you need to learn, not something you just do.
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Old 05-04-12, 08:15 AM   #3
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There is no trick. Just do it, you'll get less embarassed everything you do it and you'll actually get good at it. The first times are the worst,, cause you don't really know how to move,, but tell yourself, everygirls have been in the same sitaution, so there is really nothing to worry about.
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Yeah Thanks I Appreciate The Responses. Just When I'm On Top I Feel Really Weird & It's Like When I Try It; It Feels Wrong To Me. So I Stop & He Gets Mad At Me & Says He Can't See Why It's So Hard. I Try Explaining It But I Goes In One Ear & Out The Other. He Just Can't Understand What I'm Feeling & I Know If I Don't Gain The Coourage To Do Something Fast; I'm Going To Lose Him.
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He's Not At Times; I Just Wish He Was More Understanding & Less Aggressive.
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If you're not comfortable with it then tell him. If he loved/liked you he'd respect your likes and dislikes and work with/around them. Maybe you could try other ways of taking charge? You shouldn't feel forced into anything whilst in a relationship.









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I'd say he should fuck you doggy style first; once you are comfortable getting fucked this way you might feel safe to switch to top position, and being able to enjoy it.
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Sounds like a douche, sad thing you lost your virginity to him.

Id tell him be glad he's getting laid in ANY way and be patient or he'll get none. If you're uncomfortable with something he should understand. I get it's really hot to him and crap, i get that, but he should not be making you feel like this.








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You should only do that type of thing if you are comfortable doing it. If you aren't, then you have to work with him in order to become comfortable enough to do it. Talk to him about it when you aren't in bed with him. If he doesn't want to work with you and be patient, then tell him that you can't do it. Don't do something that you're uncomfortable with. If he does love you, he should be fine with you saying that you can't do it.








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