I hate my dad.... no i really do

[Faithfull]

Ok, i know that "I hate my dad" makes me sound like a spoilt little kid who slams doors and screams You're ruining my life" when she angrey but i'm not like that.

I moved to France 3 and a half years ago. Before we moved my dad was my hero, i wanted to be just like him, he was the best thing since sliced bread, but we never saw him, he was always down the pub or at work. Now that we've moved he doesn't work and there are no pubs around here so he's here all the time and i can't stand him.

He's a bully, everything i do is wrong. He yells at me because i'm fat, then because i'm not eating everything he gives me, then coz i'm fat again. He calls me stupid ALL THE TIME but then when i get full marks in a test he'll say "well it's about time you stopped being for F***ing stupid and did something right." He even yells at me for being short! No joke, he gets mad at me for being short.

He's like it with everyone but when he's like it to someone else he'll say how sorry he is and how he didn't meen it and all that. With me, he just acts like it's perfectly normal to yell at someone for being too fat, short, not eating enough, being smart, being stupid.

He's always praising my little sister, it's like she's the angel and i'm Satan in a dress. It's got to the point where i really cant even stand being in the same room as him.

Is there anyway i can, idk... stop hating him, or get him to stop bullying me??
I've tried telling my mom but she says "I just let you both get on with it, it's nothing to do with me" I cant take it anymore, i really cant stand this.

(sorry this was so long :()

[Brainiac]

no, you cant do anything. if your dad, really act like you tell, he first must realize what sin he committed, if he treats you so. you only can say it again and again to him what he's doing wrong to you ... but i think - he first needs professional help before he's able to recognize that. and that will become a very long, painful way - for him, for you and your family.

[Meta]

i have to say i dont think there is much more i can add to what hes said above. i know it wont make him treat you any differently but maybe start writing a diary so you can get rid of some of the stress of it all?

[ohgoshemily]

Heres what you should do........
talk to your dad and tell him how you feel, theres nothing to loose?
tell him that he has been making you feel really upset and down by all these negativ comments and its effecting you.
I think maybe your dad hasnt realised how strong his comments have been and he might understand if you sit down and talk to him like a mature adult. Good Luck!

[ChristiieRAWR]

My dad used to be the same kinda - he always said I was a disapiontment to him and said that I was ungratful if I ever didn't eat food or something stupid - we are fine now cause I started to fight back - it might not work with you but theres a good chance - just shout back, don't EVER let him see you cry even if you wanna burst into tears hold it in, cause thats whats probably giving him the kick. If it gets to a piont where you want to hit him, just walk out on him, go to a friends house or a close reletive, ( can't spell :L ).. Things should soon clear-up

[Hash]

My dad and my step mom was just like that and I delt with it for 11 years.. but I decided about a week ago enough is enouhg.. Then I just moved out.. Im living with a friend now.. I also went to see a child welfare captain at the local police station and she said if parents treat kids like that it counts as mental/emotional abuse and you can file a report against them.. also they then can't make you move back..

Apart from that I really dont know what to do myself because nothing else I did worked..

Good luck, I feel for you.. @--;---

[Love.Berry]

Your father does seem to be targeting you for some reason. If I were you I would just try and make conversations with him and try and get him to understand me more, as well as just to spend time with him to attempt to make a better relationship. Father and Daughter relationships are usually quite strong. (That's a lie, actually. If I were you I would just ignore him and pretend that he does not exist, but I think you should try and improve your relationship with him).

Did you do something to upset him in the past, maybe? When did he start to act this way against you anyway? Was it recently or has he just always been this way towards you? The fact that your mother does not wish to get involved is interesting too, because if this was the case in my family my mother would put me and my feelings/problems first.

I also have a difficult relationsip with my father, but it's difficult to explain. As a man I like him, but as a father I hate him.

[John]

I recommend you call child support or at least speak to them, it seems necessary at this stage as you are being abused. My best wishes go out to you, and good luck.

[ajiachan]

I understand. I hate my dad, too. He literally made my life a living hell, but anyway. There really isn't anything you can do. That is how he is and unfortunetly, it is not going to change over night. But I am here for you if you need to talk and such. I understand completely.

[Paja]

Tape him ina action and than show it to some of your relatives to work it out with him.