[neisti]

All of this that I write will probably sound silly or not make any sense but I can't think of anything else to do right now, I don't have anyone else to turn to in where I know I can get an honest answer. Lately, ever since I've started "college" I've been feeling really lonely, I only have about four good friends, not saying I want more to replace them or to just be popular, but I just can't think of anything interesting to talk about anymore. I'm scared that people find me boring and so I just like to listen, when I'm in my group of friends, I just prefer to listen. But then I'm scared that they'll think I don't care. I'd tell them but I don't want them to act any different to how they do now, they seriously are the best people in my life right now. I don't think I'd have made it this far without them. But I want to make them laugh, make them happy, like they do me, but I just don't get the feeling that I'm doing a good job of being a "friend". Whenever I try to talk more, I just become blank and don't know what to say. Before I started college I could talk for ages about anything, crack out jokes and make people laugh. But something inside me now just thinks I'm being boring all the time. I hate feeling like this, I just want to be able to talk with them, joke and have a laugh, I don't want to make them feel like I'm just "tagging along".

When I started college I tried my best to fit in and try to make new friends but I just can't find anyone with the same interests or anyone that I can talk to, even when I joined clubs that were to do with things I'm interested in, I just can't seem to get a conversation going. I can't even get a conversation going on-line any more, msn is a nightmare for me when people start talking to me because it turns into a 5 minute conversation and then absolute silence. I've tried signing up to countless websites, but it seems everyone else already has friends and if I try to talk to them, they'll give a sentence answer and go back to talking to their friends. Now I know it takes time to get friends, but I've put in the time and got nothing out of it.

I know I'm probably making mountains out of a molehill and just being silly about this but it's really made me sad, I don't feel like going out and doing anything because I know I'll have to talk to people and then that feeling of, "Am I boring them?" kicks in again. I really don't know what to do...
I'm sorry if my english isn't best, I'm from Norway.

[Kirk]

Hello.

First of all, your English is fine. Don't worry about it.

As for what you wrote. Don't worry, I feel the same way. I only have a few friends at college (4-5) and I'm usually the one that just listens to what they have to say. I'm not much of a conservationist and I have no interests to discuss, so usually I end up making the odd comment now-and-again, not full-on conversation.

Originally Posted by neisti

When I started college I tried my best to fit in and try to make new friends but I just can't find anyone with the same interests or anyone that I can talk to, even when I joined clubs that were to do with things I'm interested in, I just can't seem to get a conversation going. I can't even get a conversation going on-line any more, msn is a nightmare for me when people start talking to me because it turns into a 5 minute conversation and then absolute silence. I've tried signing up to countless websites, but it seems everyone else already has friends and if I try to talk to them, they'll give a sentence answer and go back to talking to their friends.

This bit I understand completely, as I'm in a very similar situation, especially about making new at college. I made a few friends, but no one I speak to on a regular basis or hang around with.

I can't really offer much advice. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone.

Hope someone else replies and helps you.

[neisti]

You don't know how much better that has made me feel! I'm so glad that I'm not on my own! I'm too the same with hanging around with them for like, 1 hour a week but they're not the kinds of people I'd telephone and meet for a coffee or something. XD