[rachelxxoo]

About 5 months ago my mom passed away from 3 different cancers. I'm 17 and i'm just finishing up my Grade 12 year. Well i now live with my Aunt and ever since my mom passed i went into this routine where i sleep all day ill be awake for a bit to eat then i go back to bed. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on hobbies or something to get me out of this. My aunt doesn't really talk to me and the friends i have at school aren't exactly "real friends." Hahah i probably sound like a suicidal person, i'm not at all just a bit depressed i think for the time being

[madmilzx]

this is a totally understandable reaction
im sure you feel really alone and unsettled
but if you want to get out of this cycle then
are there any activites you used to be interested in ?
things that you could do hmmm....
are you an active person?
creative?
musical?
have you looked around in the community or at your school for advertisments for clubs/ programs around the place
there are always theatre music groups around towns
sports clubs you can join
if you explain more about your interests then maybe i can help more
good luck
x

[sldkfhaskdjfhksj]

Originally Posted by rachelxxoo

About 5 months ago my mom passed away from 3 different cancers. I'm 17 and i'm just finishing up my Grade 12 year. Well i now live with my Aunt and ever since my mom passed i went into this routine where i sleep all day ill be awake for a bit to eat then i go back to bed. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on hobbies or something to get me out of this. My aunt doesn't really talk to me and the friends i have at school aren't exactly "real friends." Hahah i probably sound like a suicidal person, i'm not at all just a bit depressed i think for the time being

Force yourself to get out of the house. If you find yourself about to sleep away the day just get out. Try going to a coffee house and hanging out there. I find if I'm in a slump or just being lazy and bored if I make myself get out and do stuff, I don't want to go back to being lazy.

[madmilzx]

Originally Posted by B4CQN

Force yourself to get out of the house. If you find yourself about to sleep away the day just get out. Try going to a coffee house and hanging out there. I find if I'm in a slump or just being lazy and bored if I make myself get out and do stuff, I don't want to go back to being lazy.

i think this is good advice but shes had such a hard time with family she shouldnt have to venture out on the off chance that she will meet someone to talk to
shes not being lazy she has a very valid reason for the way that she is feeling
x

[Sam1]

Hi Rachel,

I'm really sorry for your loss.

I think you're having (an understandable and totally normal) grief reaction, you're in mourning. Everyone deals with grief and mourning differently, and maybe this is your way. If it makes you feel better, that's fine. But, if it gets in the way or otherwise interferes, then you'd need some professional help.

What to do now? Try limiting your 'down time', allow yourself to grieve in the way that suits you. And, when that predetermined time is up, change the scenery. Go for a walk, go to the mall, take a bike ride, do something to get out and reconnect with the world.

Everyone survives loss, unfortunately it's a part of life. But, I think you can manage it by structuring your time to be sad (sleep), with a recognition that life goes on, and you should reconnect with the activities and people who can not so much 'talk' with you, but just have fun with you.

[BlackFlowersFall]

It's going to take some time to heal after your loss. Try the advice everyone else has suggested, and try talking to your Aunt. She probably just thinks she needs to leave you alone and mourn. I think talking to someone might easy the pain, even if its a friend, family member, or psychiatrist.

Sorry, started to ramble off the topic there. Throw yourself into an after school activity. Find something you love to do, something that will get your mind off of everything. Try going out, seeing a movie, asking your Aunt to go out for dinner or something. But I'm sorry for you loss and I hope this helps.