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tonight has possibly been one of the worst nights of my life :( from one email from my bf, i totally broke down at work :( for you to get the idea here it is...
Hi,
I am still away at the moment must be so hard for you. not been having a good time tho :( to be honest with you, I was made to take the holiday by work due to stress. Found out Katie is 8 1/2 months pregnant so there every chance its mine which has been playing on my mind thats why i was made to take a holiday and my mum took me away. Its almost cert its mine infact as she didnt start seeing this other bloke till later. Its really messed me up and made me question what im going to do.
Thing is i never had a father and i dont want that for any child of mine i have insisted on a paternity test though.
This leaves me in a very awkward place with us baby for the minute till i sort myself out i need some time sexy i hope you understand but i know you will hate me for all i have put you through i did tell you about my horrible life at the start and its only getting worse :( at the moment i need all the support i can get so if you want to be here for me and email me i would love it but i know that i have messed you around so much and feel so low.
when i go back to work next week there is talk of moving me to daresbury lab up north to get away from everything for some reason everyones got it in there head in suisidal but im not !!!!
I need friends at the mo baby and if you want to be there hopefully soon i can do more but at the mo its just not possible i still love you and have all these feelings for you and i hate myself also for all i am putting you through both with me and your family bet they hate me now to.
Devoted to you
xxxxxxx
I just don't know what to think, we are engaged to but he is talking about being friends i just don't get it, i also feel like he'll want to be with her, even tho she is a complete psycho! we had talked about having a baby, but now i feel because he may have 1 coming he'll be made up and i'll just become a distant memory :(
please any advice would make me feel better, what do you i should do? or say to him, how should i approach this whole crappy situation?
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Cupids arrow hit me on 17/5/2010, loving you always my cutie Will x x x
hey, first of all, dom't be like that.. you have to be strong in this moment... i understand your situation.. if he loves you, he'll only want to be with his son's mother because of his son, nothing else. besides, you're not even sure if the son is his. i think that you shall be strong for you and for him and be there when he need because, after all, that is also what bfs are for.
when he talked about "needing friends", he was refering that now he needs friends and therefore you. he's not saying that he wants to break up or something. it's just that now, he needs more of a friend than actually a girlfriend. although girlfriends shall be friends as well....
and he, having a son doesn't mean that he's going to be with his ex as in go back to her. No. he can go pick his son and have a weekend with you both. No biologycal mom... like divorced couples do.
There are a couple of issues that immediately come to mind. The first is obviously if the child is his, and if so, what his intentions are.
The second is his past...he's been intimate (and reckless) with others, I think a full accounting of that is in order, esp. since you're engaged. You should know what he's been up to, and how that might affect your future together. Needless to say, honesty is an important way here of reestablishing your trust.
In terms of emotional support, that's a tough one. Personally I think you're the one who needs the support here, you've been betrayed and had the rug pulled out from under you. So, if you feel too overwhelmed or exhausted you are by no means responsible for taking care of him. Your first priority is to attend to your own feelings and sense of shock, and if that means that you pull back, so be it.
when he talked about "needing friends", he was refering that now he needs friends and therefore you. he's not saying that he wants to break up or something. it's just that now, he needs more of a friend than actually a girlfriend. although girlfriends shall be friends as well....
i think you may be right with this, have to just wait and see for now. just worry about him thats all. thanks
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Cupids arrow hit me on 17/5/2010, loving you always my cutie Will x x x
The second is his past...he's been intimate (and reckless) with others, I think a full accounting of that is in order, esp. since you're engaged. You should know what he's been up to, and how that might affect your future together. Needless to say, honesty is an important way here of reestablishing your trust.
Oh i should of said this last night he was with this girl for 4 years previous, so they have a lot of history. i've always told him to be honest with me as i believe that is the best way, but i can also understand why he wouldn't have told me straight away, he's had so much going on lately.
i also know what you mean with my emotions too tho, i still feel well can't really explain how i feel but its not very nice. just have to hang on til he gets back of holiday then talk this through i guess.
thanks, u give really good advice
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Cupids arrow hit me on 17/5/2010, loving you always my cutie Will x x x
Honestly, you're 17.
You are in no position to be worrying about yourself being or your significant other being a parent in any sense and you are likely better off JUST being his friend, not his fiance.
His life is a mess and he needs support and friends, not a 17 year old fiancee who's main concern in this whole mess is yourself.
not a 17 year old fiancee who's main concern in this whole mess is yourself.
do u know how rude that is, from reading your posts i thought u was nice. if u knew anything about me, i am in no way a selfish person, i only ever think about others. my boyfriend is my highest priority, not myself. f.y.i ur only 3 years older.
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Cupids arrow hit me on 17/5/2010, loving you always my cutie Will x x x
do u know how rude that is, from reading your posts i thought u was nice. if u knew anything about me, i am in no way a selfish person, i only ever think about others. my boyfriend is my highest priority, not myself. f.y.i ur only 3 years older.
If your boyfriend is your main concern, you will understand his needs and help him in anyway you can, not worry about your relationship status.
And yes, I am three years older.
There is often a big maturity gap between that of a 17 year old and that of a 20, almost 21 year old. When you are my age, you will look back and realize that.
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