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Right, well, as you probably know, I don't have much luck with girls. This thread ain't about that.
Now-a-days, I can't think "positively" about women. I know there's some decent girls out there (for example sake, let's say the majority of Teen Forumz's female members ), but lately I've just been steortyping women negatively. "Whores", "Sluts", "bitch"...you name it, I just can't seem to put a positive label on the opposite gender. I know my thoughts are wrong but I just can't seem to get out of this mindset. I think it's because I've been hurt by all the women that have come into my life, in one way or another, regardless of my relationship with them. If I actually knew one decent girl IN REAL LIFE then I'd imagine my opinions would be drastically different.
I'm sure some of you have done the same; making comments such as "All men are arrogant pricks", so please don't try and point me out as, well, one of those. I'm just having a hard time I guess.
I didn't quite know how to write this so...erm, yeah. Help?
ahhhhmmmm... right... well, i think it's normal. Us, girls we also so that until we meet the "right one". i think that's all you gotta do. Wait until you find "the one". I know it can be hard for you because of your shyness but that will come with time... that always come with time, there's no need to force it or something.
That's because you haven't found the right girl... that girls aren't girls, they are sluts, like you said. and we, girls, are the very first to call another girl a slut if she's acting like one.
that is also due the place where you live.. Not criticizing Uk or something but see this: UK and America has a very similar type of population (not really population that i wanted to say but the real word is missing). what i mean by this is, for example, in school.. you have the jerks, the sports guys, the cheerleaders, the ones who suffer from bullying... that kind of stuff.. I don't know any of that. Here there is no such thing... no one is popular and no one is the "invisible one"... we are all equal. so, maybe, that is why some people act more normally and some others don't...
i'm not saying that all people are jerks in some place and some people are the best in other. No. but i wrote all this to show you that maybe that also depends on the place you are. Lots of girls are not really like that. They just act like that because of others/because they want to be popular as well by following someone's acts... shits like that...
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Every boy is arrogant, acts like a player or ignores me tooo!
Honestly, that is exacly how I felt untill I met my boyfriend.
Made me so deppresed.
I don't know what to tell you, I'm sorry I don't because I know girls can be arrogant, and vile and so can boys.
All I can say is, Wait. Go diffrent places, talk to new people, talk to everyone you meet!!!!
I probbably diddn't help, But I hope I did.
Even now when I try to talk to a boy they just talk to me like I'm a bit of chewing gum on there shoe.
So yeah, I know COMPLEATLY how you feel!
xo
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Kirk mate, listen to me on this one.. girls play with your head and play hard to get but all they want is the positive attention, and alot of it. Give them that, and they're yours, whether or not shes "the one" or not. I do agree though there are alot of slags out there but you'll have to just get used to it and avoid them if you don't want nothing to do with them.
It's not so much that your opinion of women is wrong, but maybe your (low) opinion of yourself is wrong....
It's good that you can see that part of your feelings here are based on loneliness. Your task then, is a reality check. You have to get yourself out there and meet new people!
Girls are like boys...except they smell much better (amongst other things)...so, some are nice, some aren't, some have attitudes, and then there's the one that's just soooo perfect. But you have to find her, and as the saying goes, you might need to kiss a few toads before you meet your princess.
Hey, maybe it's not exclusively your opinion of women - you could just be a judgmental person in general! Personally I find it very difficult to make new friends because I can be so critical, and will start harbouring negative feelings towards someone just because of their clothes, the music they like, or their vocabulary. Shallow, I know! And I cringe whenever I realise I'm doing it. But I'm working on it.
D'you think that's your case, or is it literally just women that you find yourself negatively stereotyping?
What is it about a woman that will make you instantly classify her as a slut/whore/bitch, even though you know there's much more to her as a person? You're obviously an intelligent bloke and you understand that everyone's an individual, so is there something that they all have in common that connotes your negative feelings? For example, do they dress a certain way, or talk a certain way ... ?
I think you've already answered your own question: things would be different if you knew a decent girl that you got on with irl. You've pointed out that although you've interacted with lots of women, all of them are in some way disappointing. I guess the only remedy, then, is meeting an exception ... and I could only suggest the usual places you could go to find her, e.g. a club, through a friend ... you've heard it all before so I won't repeat.
If you ever fancy a day in Southampton, I'd do my best to change your mind!
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STOP. ARE YOU READING THE ABOVE POST?
If not, do it. I'm beginning to get the impression that 50% of TF is populated by literate parrots/sentient mirrors.
i hope you find a really great girl , you deserve it (: , anyway kirk i also think u have to look better , i mean not all girls are like that , maybe with time , and besides your young , i believe you only love someone truly one's , i dont believe in " the one" .
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My opinion of women is wrong.
), but lately I've just been steortyping women negatively. "Whores", "Sluts", "bitch"...you name it, I just can't seem to put a positive label on the opposite gender. I know my thoughts are wrong but I just can't seem to get out of this mindset. I think it's because I've been hurt by all the women that have come into my life, in one way or another, regardless of my relationship with them. If I actually knew one decent girl IN REAL LIFE then I'd imagine my opinions would be drastically different.
And I cringe whenever I realise I'm doing it. But I'm working on it.
