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I think I might be messing up but I can't tell. The past few weeks I've started to drink again, in the past when I've drunk, I've turned into a wild party whore essientally. But that's because I'd only been drinking at parties with guys, etc. Well the first couple of times here I was drinking with just my friends after their parents go to bed and I've been better, I've been a little wild but not like harmful wild and I'm just being weird around my freinds, we're just having fun, it's not harming anyone. We have a few drinks then play twister or something fun. We might give each other a joking spanking or something stupid, but I keep my clothes on, I don't do anything bad.
Then a couple days ago someone was having a pool party, with guys and I actually did drink there and well, I was ok. I was kind of slutty, like I sat on girls laps and pretended to grinded them. I didn't like take my clothes off or anything.
I don't feel like I'm doing anything this time around with my drinking but like, I'm sure if it's good that I'm drinking again even though I feel like I have some control over it, can I have advice please. I don't what's going on with me, because I'm having fun with it this time but I don't know how much fun I have before it turns into what I was before
My grandpa died from a drunk driving accident and my dad is turning into an alcoholic. I'm not trying to say don't drink at all but be careful, alcohol has already ruined my life. I don't think I will ever drink.
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I'm honestly pleased to hear that you're making progress and staying in control. I remember your previous threads and how you felt the next morning after what you got up to at parties and I'm proud of you for what you've now achieved. There's nothing wrong with drinking so long as you can control your actions and recently you've shown that you can do that. Even at a pool party with other guys you were able to stay in control and no regret things. Seriously, well done.
My advice would be to keep up what you're doing because whatever it is, it's working. Not going to parties that guys are at is a good start and make sure you have friends around you can look after you if they notice things are starting to go wrong. If you haven't found the limit of your drinking yet where you turn into the person you were before, I suggest you go very carefully until you do find it. Often it can be a fine line and isn't just down to the amount you drink. The people you are with, the place you're drinking (party, sleepover etc.), your mood at the time can all have an effect.
Just please be careful and if you do drink, take extra care so that you stay in control. Drinking is fine so long at you can find that limit.
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I haven't read any of your previous threads, so you'll have to please excuse me if I come off as a little ignorant!
Most people drink, esp. the majority of teenagers. And from time to time, most of those people find that they act a little goofy because of it. The repercussions of heavy drinking normally put people off of doing it again - the nausea, headaches, the embarrassment, the physicals risks ...
I think that so long as you have an incentive not to drink excessively, having a drink until you're giddy at a party is fine. You say that you feel in control which is brilliant and monumentally important, but if you ever feel that sense of control slipping, try and remember that you don't want to feel awful the next day, or upset your friends with your antics, or put yourself at risk.
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I'm honestly pleased to hear that you're making progress and staying in control. I remember your previous threads and how you felt the next morning after what you got up to at parties and I'm proud of you for what you've now achieved. There's nothing wrong with drinking so long as you can control your actions and recently you've shown that you can do that. Even at a pool party with other guys you were able to stay in control and no regret things. Seriously, well done.
My advice would be to keep up what you're doing because whatever it is, it's working. Not going to parties that guys are at is a good start and make sure you have friends around you can look after you if they notice things are starting to go wrong. If you haven't found the limit of your drinking yet where you turn into the person you were before, I suggest you go very carefully until you do find it. Often it can be a fine line and isn't just down to the amount you drink. The people you are with, the place you're drinking (party, sleepover etc.), your mood at the time can all have an effect.
Just please be careful and if you do drink, take extra care so that you stay in control. Drinking is fine so long at you can find that limit.
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In addition to supporting your good judgment and self control here, let me also add another suggestion: Attend all these events and do not drink any alcohol.
That's not radical, or unreasonable, or old fashioned....it's actually a good way to regain that sense of control and confidence in your ability to judge when you've had enough. By going dry, you get to experience the social aspects of the party, without needing the booze. By being sober at these events, you get to see first hand how you respond to social things (people), and how they respond to you. So, when you start drinking again, you're less likely to over do it b/c you've misjudged either how you seem to others, or how they're perceiving you, it removes that sense of social insecurity that causes a lot of people to over drink.
I think I'm going to repeat myself slightly from previous threads, but it's becoming more and more evident that drinking makes you do things you enjoy. Given the embarrassment social drinking has caused you, you must also have enjoyed it very much, or otherwise you wouldn't even think about alcohol.
So how about doing these things without drinking? How about being honest with yourself, and admit that you enjoy being a bit wild, and let yourself be such without alcohol in your blood? If you need an excuse, drink a glass of water and make it look like vodka. Learning how to play drunk is much better than being one.
There's obviously a slutty side in you which wants to come out, so let it out. If you don't, you'll get these outbursts every now and then, most likely with some alcohol in your blood and no sense about when you're causing yourself some real damage. If you'll dare to do half the things sober, you'll enjoy it a lot more, and also save your reputation.
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but if you ever feel that sense of control slipping, try and remember that you don't want to feel awful the next day, or upset your friends with your antics, or put yourself at risk.
