[tony27]

Hi guys,
i'm a first time poster and i want some help if anybody can offer it

I am going to college next week and was looking forward to the prospect, i went into my open day(half way through the summer holidays) happy. But i turned round the corner and found a girl i didnt want to see.

A few months prior i met this girl on a drunken night out and she sort of tried it on, im happy to say that i didnt do anything in return but a group of lads i was out with spread rumours that i did. The following weeks were torture at school, not helped by the fact i am quite unconfident especially when it comes to girls.

I have been dreading college ever since as this girl is attending it!!!!! and these lads are too.

A normal person could easily not worry about this problem but not me. I know i will blush to a horriffic extent and i'm really worried tbqh. I get that worked up i sweat and even see stars.

Any words of advice guys PLEASE?

[Hollie]

well if they not in the same course as you it shouldnt be a problem ..?

[INR]

Look at it this way:

IF you do blush and sweat, people are going to believe that you are ashamed of what you have done, which means that you'll actually send them a confirmation signal.

IF you don't, they'll soon realize that maybe you have nothing to be ashamed of, thus wondering that maybe those lads were liars.

[Kirk]

Don't worry about what other people think. College is a new start for you and whatever happened in High-School should be forgotten.

If these lads start spreading stuff about you then stand up for yourself or ignore them, because A) It will show that these guys are immature children who haven't grown up yet, and B) That you're the better person.

In regards to blushing though, I'm not sure what you can do. Not worrying about it would probably be the best solution.

[Sam1]

Hey Tony, welcome to Teen Forumz, I'm Sam.

If you're typically just very demonstrative there's not much you can do about it, that reaction is caused by your CNS. My suggestion would be to breathe thru it...when people freeze or do weird things to try to NOT have it happen it actually prolongs it.

With regards to your so called friends here, try to remember that even though the event with that lass really stood out for you (and maybe still does), for everyone else it's really just yesterday's news....they've either forgotten or moved onto the next piece of wacko adolescent news. Should they raise it, try laughing along with them.

In general, it's often best to just go with things, be they physiological (like sweats and stuff), or interpersonal (like teasing). Trying to deny them often just makes it worse.

[TheGuy]

You're going to be there. She's going to be there. Sooner or later that story will be a story of the past. This if of the kind of things that time fixes, unless you insist on messing it up even more.

[Lacerbus]

Even in college rumors are spread, but also like in high school its best to just ignore them. However, in college, there are thousands of students that are unaware of or simply don't care about the rumor; however, for those who do simply ignore them.

Denying it or trying to provide any sort of explanation would likely cause you to blush or embarass yourself further so don't even try to. Believe me, they are not worth the time nor the breath since apparently they feel the need to come up with rumors and spread them to brighten up their day.

Keep your chin up and eventually those rumors will be replaced with another. I'm pretty sure your classmates have more pressing matters than your private life. This comes from personal experience. Good luck in college by the way!

[tony27]

Thanks everybody for your help. It's nice to know there are people out there that can help. It was my first day today and it went better than expected. I'm hoping to relax a bit over the weekend and set the record straight with anybody with the wrong information.
Cheers everybody I'm very grateful