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I never do crazy ass shit to be honest, but it seems awkward when you tend to talk to a lot of girls?
Only if you allow it to be awkward. All through high school, the majority of my friends were females. It was only ever awkward, when I allowed myself to become self-conscious of what others thought about it.
I do believe that there is the possibility that we self-analyze ourselves so much so that rather then be a positive, it becomes a negative. If you don't do "crazy ass shit" around your female friends, then why be so worried?
If you're friends with them, and you feel more comfortable being open and talking with them, then awesomeness!
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Originally Posted by Charlotte123
They call you gay, cos your talking to GIRLS?
Society for some reason, will call a man 'gay' when he talks to women and doesn't pursue them in the form of relationships for for sex. Its a sad state of affairs for society.
If you're doing things that aren't considered 'acceptable' in your culture, then you'd feel 'strange' or awkward. But, that awkwardness is probably more reflective of you doing something that's outside your boundaries rather than something the other people (the girls) would necessarily find 'perverted'. Your values aren't always held by others, and it's important to judge yourself not only by those standards..but the standards of the people most affected.
So, if the girls are Ok with the way you relate to them...and girls (people, actually) are usually pretty good at letting you know one way or the other if you're in the social 'danger zone' or not...then I'd encourage you to look more at their response to you than your own feelings here.
Dave's got it perfectly covered, society in general is sick.
@Dave
Excellent advice as ever, you have successfully boosted my self-esteem!
@Sam
But as you might know, people do a terrible job of actually telling you what they feel, and I'd hate to pick up on clues like brief conversations and easy distractions to know that I am not held in their minds with as much importance as I tend to give them.
@Crystal
I never said there was anything wrong with it, I actually think I like being this way. But supposing I were to out of the blue start a casual chat with you, would you not find it in the least bit weird? If not, then I'd be happy to actually do it
Nah, girls won't think you're a perv if you're more open with them. A lot of girls assume that when guys express themselves and act friendly they're trying to get them to like them more. But if they judge you that quickly, then they're not worth talking to anyway.
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You have got an excellent point there, but it's tough because society demands you to have a security barrier set up for most first encounters, or something of the sort. And I don't want to not get to know someone just because they may have been quick to judge, I sometimes make rash decisions and later correct them.
You could be worrying about this SO MUCH things are going to get awkward.
Most girls i know, will keep you as a friend since guys don't backstab or bitch like girls do.
I always believed in that girls like having guy friends more than guys like having chics as friends.
Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius "The guy in the back always has something to say"
Well, it's not eating me apart or anything, it's just that I'm a bit less confident now, then let's say a year ago when I got on the forum, as I encountered a problem with a class mate of mine, who thought I was flirting with her and hated me for it. Seriously, why should girls always assume just because I might be a fun conversationalist that I have ' ulterior motives"? Anyway, THAT experience really messed me up. But then again, most girl from my school are extremely naive.
I'd like to believe that too, that's indeed a nice point you have there
hey Doniv, I said something very similar about myself in a thread a few days ago!!
I'm really in the same boat as you. I ten to be better suited to female company, I tend tyo find their company less intense, whereas with guiys I not a fan of having to try and come across as a big quickwitted jock! Girl company is just more rerlaxed i think :p
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