[Caer]

You claim that he's controlling, yet you pull the "well he would come with me if he really loved me" bullshit?

It's really unfortunate that you feel he should go to a college he doesn't want to go to simply because YOU are going there. Do you have no regard for his desires?
Statistically speaking, your relationship probably won't even last throughout college anyway and then what?
He would have gone to a college he didn't want to go to and it would have been for nothing.

My advice? Be supportive of what HE wants considering that the school he chooses is going to be a contributing factor to the rest of his life.

[David-]

Have a chat with him, like was mentioned before. But do not change your plans on your schooling because of him.

Separation in distance sucks. But, you've got to think about your future and he has to think about his.

[PandaaPaws]

Originally Posted by Cutiex

You claim that he's controlling, yet you pull the "well he would come with me if he really loved me" bullshit?

It's really unfortunate that you feel he should go to a college he doesn't want to go to simply because YOU are going there. Do you have no regard for his desires?
Statistically speaking, your relationship probably won't even last throughout college anyway and then what?
He would have gone to a college he didn't want to go to and it would have been for nothing.

My advice? Be supportive of what HE wants considering that the school he chooses is going to be a contributing factor to the rest of his life.

Apologies, but perhaps you could've done with less of the 'bullshit' and been a little more supportive of someone that is asking for help here?

[kaylak]

thanks you guys for the advice! ive pretty much made up my mind to go to college...i told him and he got really angry that i wouldn't stay here for him, but i realized i really need to follow my dreams; i think im too dependent on him, maybe i am mistaking that for love :(

[PandaaPaws]

You go, girl! If ever you need anyone to talk to, remember that we're all here for you. He should have been much more understanding of you if he truly cared for you. It's great that you're following your dreams!

[Caer]

Originally Posted by PandaaPaws

Apologies, but perhaps you could've done with less of the 'bullshit' and been a little more supportive of someone that is asking for help here?

"Support" doesn't always come in a pretty package wrapped in "omg he's a jerk" and "omg yer so rite".

She also didn't ask for support, she asked for advice.
I gave her some good advice.

[PandaaPaws]

Advice that could've been a little better put.
Nobody's asking you to sugarcoat anything, but everyone would appreciate it if you could be a little nicer.

Nobody should put their partner before themselves in anything this important. While she understands why he wants her to stay, his reasons are selfish. He should be happy that she's doing her best to do well and achieve what she wants. Nobody has the right to take that away and both of them should be supportive of one-another. She was obviously willing to support him, but things like this are meant to be a two-way street. He does seem like a bit of a jerk and she'll likely do much better than someone who yells at her for wanting a good career.

[kaylak]

Originally Posted by PandaaPaws

Advice that could've been a little better put.
Nobody's asking you to sugarcoat anything, but everyone would appreciate it if you could be a little nicer.

I agree!