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ok, i have a really big problem. i got accepted to st kates in minneapolis. i was really happy, until i found out my bf wont come with. i love him a lot, but he is controlling. but i cant picture life without him. i wanna follow my dreams, but he is in the way. what should i do??
ok, i have a really big problem. i got accepted to st kates in minneapolis. i was really happy, until i found out my bf wont come with. i love him a lot, but he is controlling. but i cant picture life without him. i wanna follow my dreams, but he is in the way. what should i do??
my gf and i go to different colleges 5 hours apart. Many of my friends ended up going to different colleges 3,000 miles apart. It sucks, but it's life. U have two options: Try to make a long-distance relationship work OR break up and if u both find that what u had was true, once-in-a-lifetime love, u can get back together somehow. Or there is a 3rd option: go to the same school, or live in the same city. But i don't really suggest the 3rd option imo. Getting into a good school is important. You should both go to the best one that u both like and will do well at. To be honest, do u really see each other together for the rest of ur lives???? Wouldn't it be best to play the field during college?
Then follow your dreams; if a guy truly loved you, he'd come with. If he wanted to pursue his own career (which could be a reason for him wanting to stay), then he probably does still love you anyhow, but is set on achieving his dream too.
Have a chat with him and find out the reasons why he wants to stay with you, as well as the reasons why he wants to stay home. Remember that pros and cons can apply, especially in a teen relationship, so prepare for blunt truths if you feel that's how things are going to play out when the time comes. Let us know how things go~
Then follow your dreams; if a guy truly loved you, he'd come with. If he wanted to pursue his own career (which could be a reason for him wanting to stay), then he probably does still love you anyhow, but is set on achieving his dream too.
Have a chat with him and find out the reasons why he wants to stay with you, as well as the reasons why he wants to stay home. Remember that pros and cons can apply, especially in a teen relationship, so prepare for blunt truths if you feel that's how things are going to play out when the time comes. Let us know how things go~
Then follow your dreams; if a guy truly loved you, he'd come with. If he wanted to pursue his own career (which could be a reason for him wanting to stay), then he probably does still love you anyhow, but is set on achieving his dream too.
Have a chat with him and find out the reasons why he wants to stay with you, as well as the reasons why he wants to stay home. Remember that pros and cons can apply, especially in a teen relationship, so prepare for blunt truths if you feel that's how things are going to play out when the time comes. Let us know how things go~
I also agree! What great advice
I also noticed you say he is controlling?...
Don't let him stand in your way under any circumstances.
Then follow your dreams; if a guy truly loved you, he'd come with. If he wanted to pursue his own career (which could be a reason for him wanting to stay), then he probably does still love you anyhow, but is set on achieving his dream too.
Have a chat with him and find out the reasons why he wants to stay with you, as well as the reasons why he wants to stay home. Remember that pros and cons can apply, especially in a teen relationship, so prepare for blunt truths if you feel that's how things are going to play out when the time comes. Let us know how things go~
Follow your dreams. Do what you want to do to help you be successful. If your boyfriend really loved and respected you he would either go with you or wait for you. Never let a partner hold you back from doing what you want to do because you never know when they will leave and you will regret that you never took the chance to move away! x
I agree with the advice here...you should go where YOU want. But that part about him going with you 'if he loved you' is really wrong.
Love doesn't mean people always agree with each other, nor does it mean that they must follow each other regardless of how it feels or works for them. You guys aren't married and don't have that kind of life long commitment. Sometimes, love means letting the other person do whatever it is they need to..even if it means a separation. The hope being that the separation is physical only, not emotional.
The REAL issue here is his controlling nature...that's never a good thing, and you might be confusing 'Love' with something else entirely...maybe his dominance or your dependence, but that's not love. By getting away, you get to explore life..and yourself...without any obligations or fears. And, if the relationship with him was meant to be (i.e. based on TRUE love) then it will work out, regardless of the miles btw'n you.
You claim that he's controlling, yet you pull the "well he would come with me if he really loved me" bullshit?
It's really unfortunate that you feel he should go to a college he doesn't want to go to simply because YOU are going there. Do you have no regard for his desires?
Statistically speaking, your relationship probably won't even last throughout college anyway and then what?
He would have gone to a college he didn't want to go to and it would have been for nothing.
My advice? Be supportive of what HE wants considering that the school he chooses is going to be a contributing factor to the rest of his life.
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