[kingsandqueens]

ok im really confused now i went out tonight thinking i could never kiss another boy and what happens i kiss another boy dose this make me gay? or what dose it make me i have never kissed or thought about kissing another boy befor am i gay?

[Sam1]

Jon, kissing someone isn't necessarily indicative of much other than attraction or horniness. Your sexuality is more than arousal or curiosity or attraction, it's more about how you see and experience yourself and how you experience others. It's much more than what's sexual, it's about emotions and such.

If you're uncomfortable doing this sort of thing, you should stop...if you don't, you should be aware that the other guy might have a different reaction to what's happening, and you should talk with him about that to make sure you don't get your signals crossed.

[Slightly]

Sex is sex. Two straight guys can have sex and still be straight. Sexual acts are generally pleasurable regardless of sex, which is why bisexuality in men in Roman culture many hundreds of years ago was considered the norm. Most people won't even worry about how they feel about the sexual act until after it's happened.

People (especially teenagers) will get caught up in the heat of the moment, find something that's considered "taboo" by society or their own standards exiting and different... one thing leads to another and sometimes you make-out with another guy.

Spock/Sam is correct. Sex doesn't completely make sexuality. You need to factor in your experience with the two sexes and decide which one (or both) seems more fitting to you. You might like men. You might like women. You might like both, or you might have a strong attraction to one sex and a minor attraction to the other.

Point is... kissing another guy does not make you gay, period. Experiment while you still can, I say.

[kingsandqueens]

thanks your both right its not coz im gay just experimenting

[Sam1]

Well, be careful here that you don't use the excuse of 'Experimenting' as a justification to continue doing something....and I'm not just talking about sexual things, either.

An experiment ends after one or two trials....you get your data, and after that, you make a choice. It's not longer an 'Experiment' if you've determined that you 'like ' (or dislike) something.

[kingsandqueens]

i understand that and ive made up my miond its not for me