[JohnnyBoi3]

Sure, What is DDR btw?

[PandaaPaws]

Dance Dance Revolution/Dancing Stage

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Originally Posted by PandaaPaws

That's me.

I'd like some advice as to how I can stop worrying about every single little thing that happens in my life. 2 months with my boyfriend and he's already wearisome of my mood swings when something's going right and then one thing buggers up somewhere along the line. We've only had one argument and yet I'm finding it awkward to talk to him because he doesn't seem as though he wants to know anymore. It's worrying.

I'm trying to find ways to make myself more positive. One thing I heard about is exercise - would anyone recommend going for a jog now and again when the weather sweetens up a little more?

Jogging as does walking release feel-good endorphins into our bloodstream that gives postive results in our feeling much better for the effort. I think we spend far too long on our computers, and that can tend to make us sometimes inward-thinking. That is why I think you may do well to enjoy outdoor activites more. Why not ask your boyfriend to come along with you?

I can relate to similar mood swings. Especially when encountering a tough job that will not go right, no matter how hard I try. Life's niggles are not umlike a ball bearing stuck in a tube, yet for all our good efforts nothing will damned well unlodge it. Do you cuss? I know I do! ^^

Boyfriends get the grumps as good as anyone. Just don't let his moods, his silences be used as a weapon against you. I am not suggesting he is manipulating you; but if you know you have made every effort to help him and fail, then the onus is on him.

I suggest you have a heart-to-heart. Hear him out. That is, if he wants to talk. If he seems reluctant then all you need do is ask him to leave your life and cut you some slack. Relationships are not always sweetness and light. It takes time and effort and I am sure you have given him your best shot and been an adoreable girlfriend. But if he is not trying and continues being so obdurate, then perhaps it is time you began looking elsewhere.

If you do part company if only for a short time-breather, he will keep. If, though, he does not, then he was never the boyfriend for you.

[PandaaPaws]

We've spent some time together tonight, and everything feels a lot better. We spoke about his favourite things and now he seems to be getting cheerier but I have yet to speak with him on the phone again.

Weather-permitting, I'll head out for a jog tomorrow. I know some of the parts of the route I used to take can get very slippery with mud, so it's best to go in dry weather. I'll keep you guys updated~

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Originally Posted by PandaaPaws

We've spent some time together tonight, and everything feels a lot better. We spoke about his favourite things and now he seems to be getting cheerier but I have yet to speak with him on the phone again.

Weather-permitting, I'll head out for a jog tomorrow. I know some of the parts of the route I used to take can get very slippery with mud, so it's best to go in dry weather. I'll keep you guys updated~

That sounds quite positive.

[PandaaPaws]

It was, only today we've been back to square one again.
He's coming over tomorrow - first time in a month. Shall I keep you guys posted as to what's happening?

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Originally Posted by PandaaPaws

It was, only today we've been back to square one again.
He's coming over tomorrow - first time in a month. Shall I keep you guys posted as to what's happening?

Yes please. Because it's been a difficult place you've been in and I'm sure many peeps here will want to help support you.


Back to square one, then. Good luck.

[PandaaPaws]

Well, he didn't come down in the end - missed his train, but we've talked things over and we think we're going to be okay. I've planned to move to the city for university so I'll be able to go see him more often once that happens. Obviously, my family are terrified of that.

Not really sure what to do or what to say to them.