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if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
I'm just wondering like my parents say the right thing to do is to get an abortion. I want to keep her because it's going to really hurt me if I can't haveher in my future. It would ruin my life if I aborted her. I would probably go to drugs even more. And I don't see where or how I could get better at that point. If I had her I'd have sonething to get better for. For me I feel like it's the right thingto do. But then for my child I feel wrong for choosing to parent. I feel like it's the wrong thing to bring a baby into the world. I feel like I'm being selfish to want a baby in this situation. Is it wrong to just consider myself?
Re: if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
I think it is rather selfish.
The whole point of the right thing, is that you do it BECAUSE it is the right thing. So no personal opinions, or others opinions.
The only person in all of this that really is affected is your child. Since we can't talk to him or anything about this. It is the best thing to abort it if it will not have a happy life. I'm sure someone will come here and say abortion is killing.
Well the only thing worst than death is pain and suffering. If you do not believe or KNOW you wont be a good parent because you aren't ready then abort it. THAT is the right thing to do.
Sometimes the right thing hurts, nothing is perfect.
Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius "The guy in the back always has something to say"
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She shouldn't SUFFER.
Again this is the lesser of two evils. Killing is bad, killing anything is bad.
But making someone SUFFER is worst.
This is my opinion, i know this will go into the pro or against abortion debate. But hear me out, things will get better if you decide to abort it. But if you go with keeping the baby, the only escape is adoption. Which in my opinion means you fail being a parent.
Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius "The guy in the back always has something to say"
Re: if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
Look, if you want the child to live and to have a good life, put her up for adoption.
It's better than killing her, she'll still be able to live a good life, how is that selfish if you want her to live and to live a good life? If you can't provide her a good life, find people who can.
If people want to adopt badly then they may go for an open adoption.
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Re: if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
My parents don't think I'll do it and don't want me to do it. I don't know. I would consider adoption. I have nowhere to go if I keep it while I'm pregnant. I don't know I'm at a loss really.
Re: if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
It's not about control, you'e getting into a control struggle here with your folks, and that's masking the real issue. And the issue your readiness to take on the awesome responsibility of another life. If you cannot take care of yourself, you will be unable to care for an infant, regardless of how much you might want one.
People have a baby usually AFTER they get their lives together, not before...and they certainly don't view a child as the 'reason' to pull themselves together. Sure, a lot carry the pregnancy to term, but the issue isn't so much what you want, but what is right.
Demonstrate responsible behavior...show that you're ready for this.... by pulling yourself together now.
Re: if the right thing to do hurts you so bad should you do it?
If you're currently a drug-user and pregnant, then I'm inclined to think that you may not make the best of choices sometimes. So immediately, I can see that you keeping the baby may not be in its best interests, regardless of whether or not you want it. You can either put it up for adoption or have an abortion. The decision should be made on whether or not you're mentally ready to give birth, rather than where you stand morally on the topic of abortion.
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Originally Posted by Spock
It's not about control, you'e getting into a control struggle here with your folks, and that's masking the real issue. And the issue your readiness to take on the awesome responsibility of another life. If you cannot take care of yourself, you will be unable to care for an infant, regardless of how much you might want one.
People have a baby usually AFTER they get their lives together, not before...and they certainly don't view a child as the 'reason' to pull themselves together. Sure, a lot carry the pregnancy to term, but the issue isn't so much what you want, but what is right.
Demonstrate responsible behavior...show that you're ready for this.... by pulling yourself together now.
I'm not masking it before my parents were in this I was fine with my decision. But it's like they make me feel guilty for my decision
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Originally Posted by Slightly
If you're currently a drug-user and pregnant, then I'm inclined to think that you may not make the best of choices sometimes. So immediately, I can see that you keeping the baby may not be in its best interests, regardless of whether or not you want it. You can either put it up for adoption or have an abortion. The decision should be made on whether or not you're mentally ready to give birth, rather than where you stand morally on the topic of abortion.
Make a choice and make it good. Good luck.
I'm looking into adoption hopefully my parents will understand it and be accepting but idk.
If not I guess I'll have to consider it but hopefully not.
I am pro-choice but I'm 21 weeks along which is a big part of my reason for not plus I fell in love with her when I found out I was pregnant really.
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