[sparkyboy]

Since school I have only been in contact with a few friends via facebook. I do not meet up with them because they have all gone their separate ways to uni and other colleges.

I was at college for three years, there were not many girls on my course, well there was one which I took the chance to get to know her and she was very nice, although she just was not interested in a relationship.

Now I have been single for four years. I really dont know why but its beginning to really affect me emotionally. Any girl I meet there is always something for example they have a boyfriend or they just are not interested in me.

I have known this girl for about 6 months and after adding her on facebook as a normal friend she said she really liked me and would like a relationship. The trouble was she is four years younger than me and because I met her at a voluntary organisation which we are both members of we could not have a relationship because of the position of trust as I am an adult member and she is a cadet member. I have asked friends and they could not see a problem with it and even she says she cant see a problem.

We have talked and talked and have known each other for a long time and we see each other as just normal friends as we have the same things in common etc. we are fairly close and I love her to bits.

Talking to her has boosted my confidence a bit but to be honest I am not a confident person, I feel like im the odd one out when I am around others and I really dont know why.


Since I left college I am only in contact with two friends that I see at the weekends but all they do is play computer games and I am getting bored of it and just want to get out and about and meet new people. The trouble is that I am not confident and I am really quiet unless I know who I am talking to.

Its getting me down now, I just want to find the right person to spend the rest of my life with but I just can seem to find anyone

[Arcanum]

Hello Sparkyboy.

First of all, I approve that you won't get into a relationship with a 16 year old girl. Those kinds of relationships are not healthy most of the times, and end tragically.
Finding someone can be really hard, but what matters is the quality, not quantity. So just keep looking, you'll find someone eventually.

Another advice, you know confidence really attracts people around you. Confidence is sexy.
People do not like to be around negative people, so working on your confidence can be the key to your problem. Just a suggestion though.

Message me if you need advice on working on your confidence.

Best of luck

[Sam1]

Originally Posted by Angel PT

Hello Sparkyboy.

First of all, I approve that you won't get into a relationship with a 16 year old girl. Those kinds of relationships are not healthy most of the times, and end tragically.
Finding someone can be really hard, but what matters is the quality, not quantity. So just keep looking, you'll find someone eventually.

Another advice, you know confidence really attracts people around you. Confidence is sexy.
People do not like to be around negative people, so working on your confidence can be the key to your problem. Just a suggestion though.

Message me if you need advice on working on your confidence.

Best of luck

^ This. John speaketh the truth.

Remember that you were able to start something with this 16 y/o...and that came from you. So, you have the ability to do the same thing with someone your own age. Take the risk, it's easier than you thin..you've just been out of the game too long.

[sparkyboy]

Thanks