[Jamesz]

Is there something wrong with me? i just don't seem to enjoy the whole party thing anymore. I can go out and get as drunk as i want and i just can't seem to enjoy my self, i look around at everyone else having fun and i can't understand it. I make my best efforts to fit in and its like whenever i make an effort to engage into conversation with anyone i just get ignored, i mean i know i'm not the most popular/social guy but i never knew i was invisible. It just seems to me its full of douches and slutty girls. I just kinda feel like an outcast at the moment its like peoples priorities are to pick up drunk girls, i don't know were this is going but i guess it seems to me most girls hook up with complete douches and i just don't understand were i fit in with this, don't get me wrong i like the occasional drink with buddies but i don't want to be apart of this, although i do feel left out.

[Kirk]

I don't really go out that often, but when I have done I can tell you this; 9 times of 10 the evening is incredibly dull. It seems everyone's sole intention is to get drunk...and to be it seems rather pathetic and pointless. I know how you feel when you say about people ignoring you. Even when I make the effort to speak to people, they always seem to want to talk to others rather than with me. I've never been approached by someone during a party/night-out. In regards to the ladies; I don't understand it either dude.

I'll give you a brief overview of my last two outings which happened last week;

1) Went to the pub. Everyone was having a chat and a drink (as you do). Most of the evening I spent listening to the conversations of others, occasionally chipping in and making people laugh. I don't think anyone made an effort to have a conversation with me that entire evening, other than the odd comment/question or two.

2) Went to a party. "Experimented" with drinks so was a bit tipsy and slightly more confident than usual. Decided to use said confidence to try out some things people have suggested me to do on here. Approached girl I hadn't seen for 2 years, conversation lasted 2 minutes (though I did get a kiss on the lips ). Spoke to some guys as well which lasted about 30 seconds. Everyone I didn't know well basically ignored me or didn't want to speak to me.

Unfortunately people are like that; I've never understood it either. One thing I won't ever do is change myself to be accepted by others.

Sorry I can't be of much help to you mate...just wanted you to know that you're not alone really.

[Individuality]

Just go ahead and talk to people, they are most likely going to be drunk, because that is what nights out are, realeasing the week out and having a drink, doesn't mean you have to get drunk though. If it were me i'd just be happy to be there and enjoy getting drunk and having a party.

[Jamesz]

Originally Posted by Kirk

I don't really go out that often, but when I have done I can tell you this; 9 times of 10 the evening is incredibly dull. It seems everyone's sole intention is to get drunk...and to be it seems rather pathetic and pointless. I know how you feel when you say about people ignoring you. Even when I make the effort to speak to people, they always seem to want to talk to others rather than with me. I've never been approached by someone during a party/night-out. In regards to the ladies; I don't understand it either dude.

I'll give you a brief overview of my last two outings which happened last week;

1) Went to the pub. Everyone was having a chat and a drink (as you do). Most of the evening I spent listening to the conversations of others, occasionally chipping in and making people laugh. I don't think anyone made an effort to have a conversation with me that entire evening, other than the odd comment/question or two.

2) Went to a party. "Experimented" with drinks so was a bit tipsy and slightly more confident than usual. Decided to use said confidence to try out some things people have suggested me to do on here. Approached girl I hadn't seen for 2 years, conversation lasted 2 minutes (though I did get a kiss on the lips ). Spoke to some guys as well which lasted about 30 seconds. Everyone I didn't know well basically ignored me or didn't want to speak to me.

Unfortunately people are like that; I've never understood it either. One thing I won't ever do is change myself to be accepted by others.

Sorry I can't be of much help to you mate...just wanted you to know that you're not alone really.

thanks man, its nice to see another person perspective on this

[Sam1]

Jonny, there are a lot of ways people go out and socialize, getting drunk is only one way. Actually, as you've recognized, the 'getting drunk' part often takes priority to any socializing, and often just gets in the way.

Find other ways and places and people to go out and actually socialize with..you know, which involve consciousness and sobriety! maybe you're not into the getting drunk thing for good reason...just go out now and find other like minded folks to be with.

[MaliaDhey]

I think, you're quite normal The worst thing on the world is drunk woman -_- This is disgusting. By the way - I don't like that kind of party too. At New Year's Eve I was on party in my friend's house. I didn't know anybodies so make community was hard. I drunk too much but my mind was still clear. I had great humor and asked my best friend about him friend ( i was jealous at her), because I was bravier. And...this was only benefit. I never want to repeat this. I'm very ashamed of this. Since this New Year Eve, I've resigned alcoholic parties. Ehh...I fell I made a lot of mistakes :( Could you correct me?

[ThreewayWithJesus]

There is something rather meh about parties and getting drunk.
They are all rather lack lustre.

[David-]

To be honest, I'm not a fan of the party scene. I get the idea that its supposed to be fun and what not - but I've never really found what's so 'fun' about it or what the hype is.

I can have a much better time, sober and hell, get to remember the night... versus getting drunk and having a large chunk of time blacked out from my memory.