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Hey, everybody. I am in the middle of a very interesting situation. About one week ago, my older brother kicked his girlfriend and child out of his house and onto the street. My family has now taken them both in. Has this happened to anyone else before? I feel like I am one of the Camdens on 7th Heaven. Any advice is appreciated.
You can try talking to your older brother, and see if you can get him to rethink the whole situation. You family has alredy took his girlfriend and child in, so that itself alredy helps them.
Beyond that, there is little you can do. It's your brother's life, and you can get involved directly in his issues.
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The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
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Wow. This was unexpected. I wasn't aware your older brother was living with someone, and had a child with her.
I think this is really an issue btw'n your parents and your brother, I think you might want to find out exactly why he abandoned them and what the plan is (since it affects both you, and your niece/nephew), but other than that, you should really stay out of it.
I'm assuming that they will be speaking to the minister about this and getting some pastoral counseling, if that's not part of the plan, you might gently suggest that to your folks.
There is now a new development in this situation. A few weeks ago, my mom and my brother's girlfriend were cleaning up clothes at my older brother's house and, while they were pick up clothes, a marijuana pipe fell out of a stack of clothes. My older brother claims that it is not his, but my family can't figure out whether to trust him, as he has lied to us MANY times before.
In addition, he has a room in his house that is unspeakably evil. It is full of posters, one of them being a pornographic poster of two lesbian vampires. He also has an "altar" of sorts set up in the middle of the room. My family thinks that he is now a Satanist.
All of this may not seem to big of a deal to some of you; but, being a Christian, this is about the worst thing that can happen to a family member. I would appreciate any advice.
Keir, regardless of one's religion, this whole situation would be stressful to just about any sane person (or family!).
Your brother is either really disturbed..or he's really acting out his hostility for the family's values, it's a way of being in their face in a way that he knows will really get 'em going.
I'd frankly stay out of it if I was you...maybe be there for your nephew, but let the adults handle it. Maybe be an advocate for calmness.
My Mom has talked with the minister and continues to talk to him. My brother's ex doesn't want anything to do with a church. The minister said that we should kick my brother's ex and my nephew out of our house in order to force my bro to step up and be a man and take care of them. That is a good idea in theory, but, knowing my brother much better than my pastor does, it wouldn't work.
:O I'm appalled that your minister would even suggest such a thing as kicking the girl and AN INNOCENT CHILD out on the street. That's disturbing to me. It seems to me like he doesn't care what happens to the girl or the child because she's not Christian.
That aside, I'm sorry about the whole situation. Unfortunately, as others have said, there's nothing you can really do at this point. You brother has to want help for himself and until that happens, I highly doubt that he's fit to raise a child anyway.
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