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Well I cried hard that day when I knew that he had stolen my money from my room- -
I'm not sure how many of you that know I'm an exchange student and now i'm on the program(it's alrealdy been 3 months and a half!) . There was a party for father's day here last Sunday night. I didn't think to lock my room ,so, that night a few people entered my room- - There were a girl aged 21, a boy 14, a girl 6 ,and my sister who entered my room. The 6-year-old girl was drawing and painting on a paper after she had asked for it from me, and her cousin who is aged 21 was with her. My sister was sitting on my bed. I just entered my room once to provide the girl my pencil colors and then I had to go to the living room to have conversations with the adults. I wasn't there when the boy entered my room- - I knew that he had entered my room when I saw him with my guitar(that means he had entered my room to get it.) Nothing weird at that moment, and after that the boy told me to go downstairs with him and the other little boy to make a short video clip of him skateboarding. That night after the party was over, I just realized that I had left 20 dollars on the table in my room . So i went in my room ,and my money wasn't there!I tried to find it every corner of my room - -I thought it could fell on the floor or something but i could nt find it . The next day after trying to find it again I still didn't see it so I decided to tell my hostmom and my sister about this. Thanks god if I was too afraid to tell someone at that time I would never get my money back and would never know the word "KLEPTOMANIA" -- At first I couldnt believe that one of those who entered my room would do this. The whole family is quite rich. My sister told me that one of those could be the suspect, so she made up her mind and told my hostmom to call the girl aged 21 who was in the situation ,and who is in the same house with the boy and the little girl. My mom told her to search the backnote of 20 dollars in every pocket of the boy 's and the little girl's clothes of that night. A few minutes later the telephone rang and she said that she found my banknote in the boy's clothes. My mom told her to take it out and keep it until the next day when we would go to take it at her house. -----Yesterday i went to take it at the house and the boy was there, but nobody in that house knows this except for the girl whom my mom spoke with on the telephone. I and the boy when we met I tried to act normal and he ,too,acted normal. I dont know if he already known that he dont have my money no more. ; )
Back in my house (before I went to the boy's house),my sister took me in my room and told me that she saw the boy with something in his hand before leaving my room that night but she thought it was chewing gum -- I CRIED hard that day when I first knew that the boy did it cause I never thought he would do this and also I trusted him so much. My sister said it is called "KLEPTOMANIA" which is not important that he has to be lack of money or not but it's the urge to steal every time he sees the money or something valuable. My sister didn't say that the boy is kleptomaniac but she just wanted to explain that he 's not a robber but he grabs if he sees it openly. --Now I'm calmed down and dont think about it no more and I and the boy still talk to each other like usual.
Do any of you have come across a situation like this? I have looked up the meaning of Kleptonamia to understand it better ,and I wanna know; IS IT HIS FAULT ? cause the dictionary says kleptomania is the urge to steal ,typically without regard for need or profit. So maybe he didnt' intent to steal,but his hand went for it ? I try not to get angry or sad or anything and try to understand everything. So, what do you say? -- Thank you so much for your helps
I donl' know if he's a Kelptomaniac, that's pretty serious and largely out of the person;s control, it's serial stealing. What we do know is that he stole from you.
Don't take it personally, it doesn't sound from your description that he was doing it to you...it was an impulse that resulted from seeing $20.
The important things now are, 1) To safeguard your cash so there isn't a repeat, and 2) to discuss this with him. And probably, his parents, too.
When something happens that's clearly out of bounds (as this is), you really have a responsibility to at least inform the person that you know, and what your reaction is..and ask for an explanation. That not only provides a learning experience for him (as in 'You got busted and there's a consequence, if only being held to verbal account), but it also lets you (hopefully) talk this over, get an apology and reassurance that it won't be repeated, and move on.
Stuff happens, kids don't always have the best judgment...the issue isn't just what happened or what it might mean or what the internet diagnosis is, but really how it's handled and resolved. THAT'S the part the results in growth and change..and reassurance. Which is what you're after here.
I know someone with Kelptomania. They don't think logical, stealing money, he takes things like 2p's, empty bottles, pens, books, photographs.. Most of the time he doesn't beneift at all.
He's only 14 years old, I wouldn't be surprised by a boy his age stealing money from other people, kleptomaniac people feel the urge to steal things that aren't necessarily valuable, it's a disorder, stealing valuable things is simply a lack of honesty.
Kleptomania is kind of like a drug addiction in a way. You know you shouldn't do something, but you do it anyway because it makes you feel better somehow.
However, this guy may not have Kleptomania, he may just be saying that he does to cover his ass. You should probably look into it more.
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Don't take it personally, it doesn't sound from your description that he was doing it to you...it was an impulse that resulted from seeing $20.
Yes ,he's 14
having thought it again I accept that you're right- -hewasn't doing it to me but it was the $20
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Originally Posted by McDonalds
I know someone with Kelptomania. They don't think logical, stealing money, he takes things like 2p's, empty bottles, pens, books, photographs.. Most of the time he doesn't beneift at all.
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Originally Posted by Castello
He's only 14 years old, I wouldn't be surprised by a boy his age stealing money from other people, kleptomaniac people feel the urge to steal things that aren't necessarily valuable, it's a disorder, stealing valuable things is simply a lack of honesty.
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Originally Posted by coloroutofthlines
Kleptomania is kind of like a drug addiction in a way. You know you shouldn't do something, but you do it anyway because it makes you feel better somehow.
However, this guy may not have Kleptomania, he may just be saying that he does to cover his ass. You should probably look into it more.
Yea,thanks to you all here
I forgot to tell about another thing. The day I went to his house after I got my $20 back,he was asking me to help him with his homework of maths like usual and was searching for a pencil to lend me from his pencilbag and then I and him both saw my machanical pencil that I'd been searching for it for 2 months! He looked up at me and laughed and tried to hide it ,but yea finally i got it back cause it's officially mine:O His aunt was there too and saw everything and asked him if he had stolen other things of mine . I announced that he also had stolen my rubber too and he confessed yes. We all werent in a serious mood anyway. Today we're still okay but I just dedicate more attention to my things when I'm with him.
Another thing I should tell you about him-- He is a brand-addicted boy and always buys brandnames with his money.(I 'm not saying that this is one of the reason why he had to steal $20 cause I' m sure he 's got enough to spend from his parents) And evey time he gets a new shirt or sneakers or a cap and everything he will show them to me and says "This is new","This is original" - -Yesterday too he bought a new Billabong jacket and was showing it to his cousin ,I sat there and he was trying to let me see the price tag. (that was very funny xD) --------- Is this information helpful ?
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Kleptomania
-- I CRIED hard that day when I first knew that the boy did it cause I never thought he would do this and also I trusted him so much. My sister said it is called "KLEPTOMANIA" which is not important that he has to be lack of money or not but it's the urge to steal every time he sees the money or something valuable. My sister didn't say that the boy is kleptomaniac but she just wanted to explain that he 's not a robber but he grabs if he sees it openly. --Now I'm calmed down and dont think about it no more and I and the boy still talk to each other like usual. 
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