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Some of you may have seen the topic I made in the School, College, Homework and Careers forum about the literacy leader thing I'm doing at my school when I'm in year 10, where I'll be put with a year 7 student and I'll have to listen to them read, try to get them interested in reading and talk to them, ect. Next Thursday, it will be the day when the current year 6's who are coming to my school next term will visit for the day, and on that day I have to come to school and meet the person I have been put with. I'm so nervous about that because I'm a very shy and awkward person who struggles talking to people I don't know, I don't know what to say and I imagine the person may think I'm weird and may not respect me or want to listen to me. Yeah, I know I always think the worst possible thing will happen, but that's just the way I am :/
It doesn't help that I can't stop twitching which makes me feel really self concious and paranoid because it just looks weird, and that I can't even look people in the eye - I'm obviously supposed to develop a relationship with this person, and I don't know how I can if I can't even to that.
I did choose to do this and I really want to do it because I feel it will help me and I'll get a qualification for it and everything, but I'm really worried about it. Why do I have to be so awkward, nervous, shy, unconfident and paranoid?
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First of all, let me say I'm glad you chose to do this. By not remaining inactive you alredy took the first step in fighting your unconfidence.
Memorize this however: People will think you're weird (in a bad way) if you think you are weird yourself first. They think what you allow them to think.
It's okay to be shy, you can expect the person you'll be put with to be shy too, as he/she does not know you either. Give that person a warm welcome and a smile, and that person will do the same. First impressions are important in these kinds of situations.
On that day, look at yourself in the mirror, and like what you see. Tell yourself you can do it, because you can, it's not a lie. I have spoken to you before and I know you can be quite an interesting person. You just need to let other people see that aswell.
Just go for a confident approach (even if you have to fake it) and smile. From then on, it'll be easy!
The trick is believing in yourself, which I am sure you can. The person will like you, if you like yourself also.
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First of all, let me say I'm glad you chose to do this. By not remaining inactive you alredy took the first step in fighting your unconfidence.
Memorize this however: People will think you're weird (in a bad way) if you think you are weird yourself first. They think what you allow them to think.
It's okay to be shy, you can expect the person you'll be put with to be shy too, as he/she does not know you either. Give that person a warm welcome and a smile, and that person will do the same. First impressions are important in these kinds of situations.
On that day, look at yourself in the mirror, and like what you see. Tell yourself you can do it, because you can, it's not a lie. I have spoken to you before and I know you can be quite an interesting person. You just need to let other people see that aswell.
Just go for a confident approach (even if you have to fake it) and smile. From then on, it'll be easy!
The trick is believing in yourself, which I am sure you can. The person will like you, if you like yourself also.
Yeah, I'm glad I chose to do it too. One of the reasons I wanted to was to help me with my confidence issues. It's not that I think I'm weird - it's just that I get paranoid that my twitches look weird and that everyone notices.
I know, I'm sure the person I'm with will feel worse than me. And I will make sure they feel welcome and smile. Yeah, the first impression I give will be very important.
I'll try to do that, but I'm not really sure that I like myself that much. However, I could try to think of things that are possitive about me and get into a possitive mood on the day. Thanks, I would like to be able to show that to people, but I always get paranoid that people will find me annoying or weird or something like that. I agree I should act confident, even though I'm not that sure how to fake confidence. But maybe it will be easy enough.
Yeah, I think I should try to believe in myself, but I'm not sure how I can. Thankyou so much for the advice, it has really helped me
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It's awesome you chose to do it. Social skills take experience. Confidence comes from messing up and realizing it's not a big deal. So things like this will help. Exposing yourself helps.
Every time you put yourself out there beyond your comfort zone you whittle down the crap fears your mind has scared you of. I mean, it's a random Year 6. Not a pissed off Jack Bauer.
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It's awesome you chose to do it. Social skills take experience. Confidence comes from messing up and realizing it's not a big deal. So things like this will help. Exposing yourself helps.
Every time you put yourself out there beyond your comfort zone you whittle down the crap fears your mind has scared you of. I mean, it's a random Year 6. Not a pissed off Jack Bauer.
Yeah, I know what you mean - that's why I wanted to do it. Maybe after doing this, I might not feel so nervous when talking to people I don't know. Thanks for the advice.
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