[Hazing]

It's easy for people to judge and say "get over it. You have nothing to lose." But really the problem is far deeper than that. As was mentioned before, I do believe you have a form of social anxiety, or even post traumatic stress. Maybe someone said abusive things to you when you were younger. Maybe there's an imbalance of chemicals. But I think it's best if you see a professional. In fact, I think everyone would benefit from seeing a therapist now and then.

I remember being shy. Bu what I started to do was throw myself in situations that I would normal be uncomfortable with. If something scared me, I would do it, even if I didn't want to. It's how I learned to adjust to different situations and people. Eventually I was just becoming more and more popular and people started coming up to me, and I was comfortable. You wouldn't even know I used to be shy. So really, I think you need to just start pushing yourself. Even though it's tough. You can do it!

[the other guy]

Well I don't care what other people think...its not like they do it that often.

That's all I got!

Good Luck

[ZioMike]

Originally Posted by the other guy

Well I don't care what other people think...its not like they do it that often.

That's all I got!

Good Luck

Other people, often, is very stupid. You must ignore other

[Chad]

Originally Posted by guyperson

Heyy my name is anonymous. I am 15 years old and go to high school. I think I am a pretty nice, friendly person but I can never express myself or be myself around others but of this problem I have.

My problem is that I am extremely shy and self-conscious. I have heard of kids who are shy, but I feel like I am more than just shy. When I am in school, I am always very concerned about what people think about me. I hate when anyone looks at me because I know they are thinking something about me.

I am always so self conscious about every thing I do. I can't get up to sharpen my pencil or go to the bathroom but I know if I get up, everyone will look at me. I can never talk in the classroom. In fact, I am completely mute. I can never say anything to any of my classmates because I am too worried about what they think of me. In other words, when I'm in class, I cannot speak out loud because I am too scared of possible negative feedback.

I am always thinking negative thoughts in my head all the time, which is also a problem. I am always very hard on myself and always criticize myself alot........
These are all problems that I have but never talk about to anyone.



Is there something wrong with me? What should I do to get rid of all these problems from my life???

Thanks

I was some-what like this, nervous to talk in class, let alone in front of everyone. Or if i got up to leave everyone watches u leave, it is something that you will realize what other people think doesn't really matter. School passes and people grow up. Expressing yourself, talking ( I dont mean u have to go into an acting class or even get in front of class) but talking to friends, or slowly start asking questions- will help. Don't worry about others- I got some tips about talking in front of class also if your worried about that- Sometimes if you have a presentation try and actually go 1st 2nd or 3rd, or one of the earlier numbers. The reason I say this is when you do this so many of the other people are worried about their presentation that they have to do, that they will not really focus on you.

[warewolf95]

Wow. I feel for you. Im 17 and this is my exact same problem. Im not a good one for giving advice so im not going to try, but good luck.

[Sunday's Fantasy]

Don't wonder all the time what the others could think about you.
Why are you as shy? Have anyone ever told u something what made u sad and that's the reason?

[SalmonNoodles]

I used to be pretty shy as you described but yeh about the age of 15 I realised that it was quite an issue, so I took on positions such as talking in front of the class taking up small leadership roles in school that forced me to have to talk to people. Now I realise that no matter what I'm gonna be judged anyway so there's really no point avoding it, even when I'm walking on the street some random stranger is going to judge me so it is pretty much inevitable, I mean it's not a bad thing I judge people too. Just be yourself let people know you, some of my friends didn't really like me from their first impressions of me but yeh just try to boost your confidence.

[guyperson]

Thanks alot for all the posts, I apprecatie all of them alot.

Originally Posted by Sunday's Fantasy

Don't wonder all the time what the others could think about you.
Why are you as shy? Have anyone ever told u something what made u sad and that's the reason?

I'm shy probably because of 7th and 8th grade. I was bullied alot and kids hated me. I was so unpopular with 0 friends at all. I had the lowest self esteem possible. I just felt like nobody liked me and I'm worthless.

One thing that effected my life alot is when I was 4, my mom died. She was the most important thing in the world for me at the time...

[mamasheja]

Originally Posted by guyperson

Heyy my name is anonymous. I am 15 years old and go to high school. I think I am a pretty nice, friendly person but I can never express myself or be myself around others but of this problem I have.

My problem is that I am extremely shy and self-conscious. I have heard of kids who are shy, but I feel like I am more than just shy. When I am in school, I am always very concerned about what people think about me. I hate when anyone looks at me because I know they are thinking something about me.

I am always so self conscious about every thing I do. I can't get up to sharpen my pencil or go to the bathroom but I know if I get up, everyone will look at me. I can never talk in the classroom. In fact, I am completely mute. I can never say anything to any of my classmates because I am too worried about what they think of me. In other words, when I'm in class, I cannot speak out loud because I am too scared of possible negative feedback.

I am always thinking negative thoughts in my head all the time, which is also a problem. I am always very hard on myself and always criticize myself alot........
These are all problems that I have but never talk about to anyone.



Is there something wrong with me? What should I do to get rid of all these problems from my life???

Thanks

I think you are not confident to your self and you're low self-esteem. You should improve yourself and do something to realize. Sometimes its normal to have a teen depression [troubledteens.com]. At your age, you will have more experience to be encounter in your life to improve your self. So, just be on yourself. Be real!

[Nightshiver]

Hey man I feel every word you say.. Your like a mirror image of me happy 2 know theres people like us but if you ask me were kinda in the upper class like special people.. Don't get me wrong I don't mean it as in were spastics but what I'm tryna say is just cope with it I'm slowly realising it's just haters who always down and dis us its obvious there jealous but don't let it phaze you let the haters burn. theres obviously a reason why were always put aside they are afraid that your going to grow your own reputation and step over them.. but no matter how hard they try to run you down just keep staying friendly were obviously the hard to get type of friends.. coz i look around people who have alot of friends arent really friendly at all but what I aim at is if I happen to be friends with some 1 I'll get really close to him...