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All right guys I am here today in order to whine and complain a little bit about my life...
But seriously I really need the advice of some older and wiser folks.. I can't turn to my parents, friends, or anyone I really know.. I suppose I could get a counselor but I would hate to allow people to know that I'm weak..Although that statement probably makes me one of the weakest.
I'm going to say I have always had a anti authoritative or semi rebellious attitude. Nothing crazy but enough to continually land me in mild trouble through my childhood and early adolescence.. I really hate my dad and can never stand him..
When I was 15 I tried weed for the first time, on my own. I had just moved to a new town and new school and saw "cool kids" doing it in 10th grade and it's not so much that I wanted to fit in, but I was bored and alone and just wanted to try something.
So eventually I started smoking everyday, multiple times per day... I ended up a full blown stoner. Now I am 17 and for the past 6 months-1 yr I've been into parties, I have been doing opiates of any kind more than once or twice a month.. Not enough to develop a raging addiction but there are days when I feel like complete shit.
Recently over the past few weeks I've been trying coke, and got into it over the last couple days. I've been spending money I can't afford on it. At first I would spend the profit I'd make from dealing weed, but steadily been losing money (which isn't like me).
Today I was at work and after working for an hr went out to cash my check at the bank, about 2 blocks away. I asked the guy I was working with if he could cover me for 20 mins and he said sure! I did not tell my manager because usually it's not a big deal where I work.
I came back and he was really mad and told me to go home. So I don't know if I'm fired yet, but things definitely aren't looking up..
I feel like a burn-out, I'm not addicted to any one drug (yet) but I am addicted to getting high, man I know it and I can feel it every second.
Before my life spirals out of control and lands in complete shit..Help me.. I have another yr of high school after the summer is over and I have plans to go to college etc. I know I've got to turn my life around. But it seems my faults are plain and simple, and I just lack the self control and willpower to change. I am pathetic but admit I need help
I'd like to first off say that I'm sorry to hear about your life going downhill. Secondly, it's great that you're noticing that you have problems and want to receive help.
I'd like to point some things out to you that stand out to me:
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Originally Posted by morjorisin171
But seriously I really need the advice of some older and wiser folks.. I can't turn to my parents, friends, or anyone I really know.. I suppose I could get a counselor but I would hate to allow people to know that I'm weak..Although that statement probably makes me one of the weakest.
That statement wouldn't make you the weakest. It should make you the strongest. Every step to recovery is the first which is normally recognizing you have a problem. Why can't you talk to your friends or family? It shouldn't make you weak for telling someone your issues. It's healthy to vent and explain your day to people. You don't have to fight it alone.
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Originally Posted by morjorisin171
So eventually I started smoking everyday, multiple times per day... I ended up a full blown stoner. Now I am 17 and for the past 6 months-1 yr I've been into parties, I have been doing opiates of any kind more than once or twice a month.. Not enough to develop a raging addiction but there are days when I feel like complete shit.
Recently over the past few weeks I've been trying coke, and got into it over the last couple days. I've been spending money I can't afford on it. At first I would spend the profit I'd make from dealing weed, but steadily been losing money (which isn't like me).
I recommend you stop using drugs and selling them. It is illegal and you could face more potential trouble than what you already need. Save your money for college because college books don't come cheap! You should also save money for your own place one day seeing as you're at that stage that you're ready to move out.
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Originally Posted by morjorisin171
Today I was at work and after working for an hr went out to cash my check at the bank, about 2 blocks away. I asked the guy I was working with if he could cover me for 20 mins and he said sure! I did not tell my manager because usually it's not a big deal where I work.
I came back and he was really mad and told me to go home. So I don't know if I'm fired yet, but things definitely aren't looking up..
Everyone makes decisions and have to deal with the consequences. I'm sorry to hear about your day. However, please know when you're working - it is a job. You're required to be there and you cannot leave without permission. Just think of it as a "wake-up" call. You will learn and experience from your mistakes.
My Recommendation:
From reading what you've posted, I would recommend you seeing a psychologist or a counselor or speak with someone you're close to. You will receive proper treatment.
Try to stop partying or hanging with the wrong clique, leave that clique. You do not need people to influence you and or your decisions. You'll find that it will help your life and your academic life as well.
Are there any drug programs you can join to help you? It is certainly not a great way to continue. You face more problems in the end. Stop using drugs before it's too late. Counselors will help you with your attitude problems and teach you how to vent properly and assertively with a lesser extreme.
Lastly, you're not pathetic. It is great you recognize your problems and are willing to receive help for it. It takes a strong person to admit they have problems. Take it step by step and you'll receive a good outcome because you'll be doing better in mentally, socially, and emotionally. It isn't going to happen over night.
Recognizing you need help is the first step. It doesn't make you 'Weak', to the contrary it shows strength and courage. Self destructing is weak.
You're right to notice your life is out of control, and you're right to recognize that the future as it is now looks pretty bleak. So, in addition to being strong you're also very courageous and honest with yourself. These will serve you well.
That's the easy part.
Now, what you need to do is find an AA/CA/NA meetings (plural!) in your area, look in the White Pages, they're all over and all the time (multiple times a day, even)...go to as many meeting as you can, tell your story, and get yourself a sponsor. He'll help support you and your struggle for sobriety.
First of all, It would be a good idea to stop doing hard drugs. I'd tell you to stop smoking weed and getting high (because that would be ideal) but I know you probably won't. So instead I'll advocate that you should probably cut back on the amount of weed that you smoke. It's not productive to be high every day. That's how weed begins to ruin lives. I guarantee you that if you stop, or cut back, on it you'll start to feel much better once you make it through the withdrawal symptoms. I think this may be the best thing you can do to change your life.
I would suggest that you do get some help from a professional or from a program that can provide help if you really need it though. Also, try and get a new hobby or interest. Join an after school program or something. It might help improve yourself and you might find that your are feeling better once you start doing things like this.
Most importantly though, It seems like your situation is completely reversible at this point. It is up to you to change it though. If you really want to make a change in your life, you can do it. There are always people there that are willing to help you get through the hard times. I've known kids that have turned their whole lives around and are living great lives right now. If they can do it, you can do it. It's all in how you deal with it. You know what you want to change about your life and how you want your life to be. Go chase those notions and stop doing things that will hinder your ability to obtain it. So just believe in yourself and you'll be in a place you want to be in no time. I know that sounds a little cliche but it also has some truth to it as well.
Recognizing you need help is the first step. It doesn't make you 'Weak', to the contrary it shows strength and courage. Self destructing is weak.
You're right to notice your life is out of control, and you're right to recognize that the future as it is now looks pretty bleak. So, in addition to being strong you're also very courageous and honest with yourself. These will serve you well.
That's the easy part.
Now, what you need to do is find an AA/CA/NA meetings (plural!) in your area, look in the White Pages, they're all over and all the time (multiple times a day, even)...go to as many meeting as you can, tell your story, and get yourself a sponsor. He'll help support you and your struggle for sobriety.
Report back, let us know how it went.
Now that's something that has crossed my mind but I didn't give it much thought. I'm going to do some research and see what kind of meetings there are in my area..
First of all, It would be a good idea to stop doing hard drugs. I'd tell you to stop smoking weed and getting high (because that would be ideal) but I know you probably won't. So instead I'll advocate that you should probably cut back on the amount of weed that you smoke. It's not productive to be high every day. That's how weed begins to ruin lives. I guarantee you that if you stop, or cut back, on it you'll start to feel much better once you make it through the withdrawal symptoms. I think this may be the best thing you can do to change your life.
I would suggest that you do get some help from a professional or from a program that can provide help if you really need it though. Also, try and get a new hobby or interest. Join an after school program or something. It might help improve yourself and you might find that your are feeling better once you start doing things like this.
Most importantly though, It seems like your situation is completely reversible at this point. It is up to you to change it though. If you really want to make a change in your life, you can do it. There are always people there that are willing to help you get through the hard times. I've known kids that have turned their whole lives around and are living great lives right now. If they can do it, you can do it. It's all in how you deal with it. You know what you want to change about your life and how you want your life to be. Go chase those notions and stop doing things that will hinder your ability to obtain it. So just believe in yourself and you'll be in a place you want to be in no time. I know that sounds a little cliche but it also has some truth to it as well.
Thanks. The words you shared seemed the most straight forward and clear. If anything I will listen to you
I'd like to first off say that I'm sorry to hear about your life going downhill. Secondly, it's great that you're noticing that you have problems and want to receive help.
I'd like to point some things out to you that stand out to me:
That statement wouldn't make you the weakest. It should make you the strongest. Every step to recovery is the first which is normally recognizing you have a problem. Why can't you talk to your friends or family? It shouldn't make you weak for telling someone your issues. It's healthy to vent and explain your day to people. You don't have to fight it alone.
I recommend you stop using drugs and selling them. It is illegal and you could face more potential trouble than what you already need. Save your money for college because college books don't come cheap! You should also save money for your own place one day seeing as you're at that stage that you're ready to move out.
Everyone makes decisions and have to deal with the consequences. I'm sorry to hear about your day. However, please know when you're working - it is a job. You're required to be there and you cannot leave without permission. Just think of it as a "wake-up" call. You will learn and experience from your mistakes.
My Recommendation:
From reading what you've posted, I would recommend you seeing a psychologist or a counselor or speak with someone you're close to. You will receive proper treatment.
Try to stop partying or hanging with the wrong clique, leave that clique. You do not need people to influence you and or your decisions. You'll find that it will help your life and your academic life as well.
Are there any drug programs you can join to help you? It is certainly not a great way to continue. You face more problems in the end. Stop using drugs before it's too late. Counselors will help you with your attitude problems and teach you how to vent properly and assertively with a lesser extreme.
Lastly, you're not pathetic. It is great you recognize your problems and are willing to receive help for it. It takes a strong person to admit they have problems. Take it step by step and you'll receive a good outcome because you'll be doing better in mentally, socially, and emotionally. It isn't going to happen over night.
It's easy to tell that you are a little different from the other posters. For one thing, you've never made any bad decisions (at least not bad in comparison to mine) and you think, "well let's just pound some sense into him." I feel lost
Step one you've accomplished, you see that your life is going in the wrong direction and that needs to change.
Step two you've already accomplished, you see that the drug use is out of control and needs to stop.
You're on your way, it's easier to address a huge problem if you break it down into smaller, more easily managed parts.
Step three is for you to get some help getting those urges and bad judgment under control, so tomorrow you;re going to go to one AA, one CA, and one NA meeting, and get yourself a sponsor. You're also going to go the entire day with no drugs...which should be easy b/c you'll be in meetings all day!
Step Four is that you're going to report back to us tomorrow nite and let us know how that went.
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