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i have an amazing boyfriend. he's been there for so much more than most would have. he helped me through cutting, attempted suicide, and being abused. I know I'm in love with him, but i can't help thinking we went too far. I'm almost 14 (8 days) and he is 14. We know we are going to be together forever and we just hit 9 months. But, a couple months ago, we had sex. at the time it didnt seem like a bad idea. we used protection and we both love each other, but i cant help wondering if it was a bad idea.
It probably was a bad idea considering you're both still children.
Can't change the past now though. Just be mindful of these thoughts and I suggest not doing it again for a long time.
I doubt you'll be together forever, the reality is that people change, you're still developing, still changing. The end results will more than likely not mesh.
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chances are, if you feel that way, you weren't ready for it and it was a bad idea. you and your boyfriend are really young and your feelings for one another are not an indication of being ready for sex.
buuut you can't change whats happened, just make sure you take a better approach to it in the future. you need to be sure you're ready for it and it's what you want so you can avoid regretting your decision.
Whats done is done. No more s-e-x. Anything else is fine. Just don't fornicate. Talk to him about these feelings. he seems like a smart and caring guy. I'm sure he'll agree.
"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot
Yeah. Those feelings probably signify that it was a bad idea. You should probably wait a little before you do it again. You probably aren't ready. But other than that, what happened happened. don't worry about it too much.
my gf had sex when she was pretty young too (with her first bf) and kinda thinks now it would have been better to wait a little while longer, but she learned a lot and nothing unfortunate happened.
people will continue to says its a bad idea until you get to the legal age, but only YOU know when\if you are ready for sex again, nobody else will be able to tell you that.
*Sam wonder's what everyone's advice here is based on* (see below)...
Julia, you haven't given us enough info about your regrets for us to really help understand those regrets. So, before I fall into that particular ditch by the side of the road of offering something based on me rather than you, maybe you can share a bit about those regrets and why you're having them?
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