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Where do I begin? I've been going through so much this year and it seems almost everyday goes from bad to worse. I am going through problems with my family, myself, and my relationship. I don't know what more I can do and I'm just getting fed up with everyone and everything. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.
My mom and I haven't really been getting along ever since I turned 18 this past May. All she does is call me female dogs and yells and nag in my ear. A couple of weeks ago, she put me out of the house because we got into a huge disagreement. I was gone for about 2 1/2 days until she finally called my boyfriend and told him that I can come back home. Everyday, she comes home mad at me. She hardly has anything nice to say about me anymore. Nor does my brother or my sister. My brother always talks down on me and I can't stand it.
As for my relationship, I just don't know what to say or how to describe it. I've been with this guy named Aaron for almost 3 years. The first year and a half we were together was so happy and fun but now, sometimes I feel like he doesn't care for me anymore. He doesn't talk to me on the phone as much as he used to and when my mom and I have an argument, I try to call him for support but instead, he turns his phone off or ignores all my calls. He's really the only person I like to talk to when I'm going through a lot but it seems now, I can't even go to my own boyfriend anymore. He's changed A LOT since we first got together and I don't like it at all. Sometimes, he talks to me with a lot of anger in his voice like he doesn't want to be bothered with me. It really breaks my heart and some nights, I will sit in my room and cry for hours.
It seems like I am losing faith in my life. It's only a matter of time before my mom puts me out again. I don't what more I can do. I have a mom who seems like she hates me, a boyfriend who seems like he doesn't care what I do or what happens to me, and a family who never has anything nice to say about me. I'm tired of it. I'm just frustrated and tired.
Where do I begin? I've been going through so much this year and it seems almost everyday goes from bad to worse. I am going through problems with my family, myself, and my relationship. I don't know what more I can do and I'm just getting fed up with everyone and everything. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.
My mom and I haven't really been getting along ever since I turned 18 this past May. All she does is call me female dogs and yells and nag in my ear. A couple of weeks ago, she put me out of the house because we got into a huge disagreement. I was gone for about 2 1/2 days until she finally called my boyfriend and told him that I can come back home. Everyday, she comes home mad at me. She hardly has anything nice to say about me anymore. Nor does my brother or my sister. My brother always talks down on me and I can't stand it.
It's not fair of your family to treat you that way but maybe you just need to make the effort to make nice? Get up in the morning and ask her how she is and give her a hug? Make an effort to tell her you love her. Works with my mom everytime she's a bit grumpy.
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As for my relationship, I just don't know what to say or how to describe it. I've been with this guy named Aaron for almost 3 years. The first year and a half we were together was so happy and fun but now, sometimes I feel like he doesn't care for me anymore. He doesn't talk to me on the phone as much as he used to and when my mom and I have an argument, I try to call him for support but instead, he turns his phone off or ignores all my calls. He's really the only person I like to talk to when I'm going through a lot but it seems now, I can't even go to my own boyfriend anymore. He's changed A LOT since we first got together and I don't like it at all. Sometimes, he talks to me with a lot of anger in his voice like he doesn't want to be bothered with me. It really breaks my heart and some nights, I will sit in my room and cry for hours.
This is also unfair of him to do but if he's changed and he's always like that then I don't think you're going to be getting much happiness out of the relationship. I would see how it goes and if he carries on like that, I'd really reconsider if you actually want to be with him. I'd expect him to be there at least when I need him but you say it's been like this alot recently with family and such?
If so, well, maybe everyone's just fed up of seeing you fed up. They're probably irritable because you're down? It's all tolerable to begin with but If I'm moody for awhile my mother gets moody just because she'd fed up of seeing me unhappy. Your boyfriend probably might feel bothered because you're unhappy and he might even feel you're not happy because of the relationship.
Smiles and good moods really are contagious. Spring out of bed one morning without a care in the world, give out a few smiles and see if they're still in a bad mood with you? If so, I really wouldn't know what to recommened.
I really hope everything works out for you, though :)
Hi,
Your family shouldn't be treating you like this. Try Lauren's suggestion of trying to cheer your mum up first, if that doesn't work, try sitting down and talking to her. Ask her why she's treating you like that and tell her how you feel about it.
As for you boyfriend, if he's changed and is like that all of the time, then I would reconsider if you really want to be with him? See how it goes for a while, try to keep your chin up and see if anything changes.
I hope everything works out for you.
I'm sorry you're in such a crappy place right now but you can take charge of your situation. If your current boyfreind won't help you out and won't even tell you why he won't help, find a new boyfreind. You shouldn't have to stand for that. In addition to what Bridie and Lauren have said, if nothing else works you could even leave home. You could go to university if you're not already there, or if you're short on money but want more of an education you could go into part-time education and work at the same time.
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I am so sorry that you're having to go through this! :( My suggestion would be, like the others said, is to either try to make nice and bear the situation or move out. Do you have a friend that might could help you out?
As far as your relationship goes... you guys have been together for three years? I know that sometimes couples get bored with each other once the new has worn off and the relationship becomes a bit stale. Maybe you could try something to spice it back up a little? Something romantic... a good date maybe?
On the flip side, if nothing seems to be working, I'd say that I'd have to bail ship on the relationship if all other options are considered/tried to no avail.
Good luck!
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My mom and I haven't really been getting along ever since I turned 18 this past May. All she does is call me female dogs and yells and nag in my ear. A couple of weeks ago, she put me out of the house because we got into a huge disagreement. I was gone for about 2 1/2 days until she finally called my boyfriend and told him that I can come back home. Everyday, she comes home mad at me. She hardly has anything nice to say about me anymore. Nor does my brother or my sister. My brother always talks down on me and I can't stand it.
Why did becoming 18 change everything? I'd like to help, but the situation doesn't really make much since without a little back-story. All I can really say is that your mum's behaviour is inappropriate, and you should perhaps try and find somewhere else to live. What are you currently doing with yourself at the moment (college, work etc)?
Have you tried sitting down with your mum and talking about the problems you're both having? Maybe all it will take it a bit of understanding to clear things up between you again.
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Originally Posted by Relle
As for my relationship, I just don't know what to say or how to describe it. I've been with this guy named Aaron for almost 3 years. The first year and a half we were together was so happy and fun but now, sometimes I feel like he doesn't care for me anymore. He doesn't talk to me on the phone as much as he used to and when my mom and I have an argument, I try to call him for support but instead, he turns his phone off or ignores all my calls. He's really the only person I like to talk to when I'm going through a lot but it seems now, I can't even go to my own boyfriend anymore. He's changed A LOT since we first got together and I don't like it at all. Sometimes, he talks to me with a lot of anger in his voice like he doesn't want to be bothered with me. It really breaks my heart and some nights, I will sit in my room and cry for hours.
I hate to say this, but I think maybe you should consider ending the relationship. On top of what's happening at home you really do not need this as well; you need love and support, which is exactly what you don't seem to be getting from your boyfriend. I understand 3 years is a long time, but his attitude towards you is shocking, and it begs the question of - what do you still see in him?
I'm very sorry to see that you're going through all of this; it's really unfair on you. Is there anyone that you can trust to support you through this difficult time, even if it's just a friend? I think right now you need to focus on establishing a life for yourself.
My mom and I haven't really been getting along ever since I turned 18 this past May. All she does is call me female dogs and yells and nag in my ear. A couple of weeks ago, she put me out of the house because we got into a huge disagreement. I was gone for about 2 1/2 days until she finally called my boyfriend and told him that I can come back home. Everyday, she comes home mad at me. She hardly has anything nice to say about me anymore. Nor does my brother or my sister. My brother always talks down on me and I can't stand it.
It sounds like you have no idea why your mum is doing this, but there must be a reason. If i was you, when your both calm, sit down together and talk about it. Talking through things can solve it, realise your differences too. Say how you dont like not getting on, and you'd like to be able to get on with your own mum.
You say your brother and sister also never has anything nice to say about you anymore, It might be because they're copying your mum. A lot of people always say mum is right, so this coul be why. Dont worry about that at the moment, solve things with your mum and hopefull they'll also stop.
If things still dont sort themselves out maybe it would be a good idea to have a break for a few days. Go away with some friends etc, to give yourselves time to think.
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Originally Posted by Relle
As for my relationship, I just don't know what to say or how to describe it. I've been with this guy named Aaron for almost 3 years. The first year and a half we were together was so happy and fun but now, sometimes I feel like he doesn't care for me anymore. He doesn't talk to me on the phone as much as he used to and when my mom and I have an argument, I try to call him for support but instead, he turns his phone off or ignores all my calls. He's really the only person I like to talk to when I'm going through a lot but it seems now, I can't even go to my own boyfriend anymore. He's changed A LOT since we first got together and I don't like it at all. Sometimes, he talks to me with a lot of anger in his voice like he doesn't want to be bothered with me. It really breaks my heart and some nights, I will sit in my room and cry for hours.
You should be happy with your boyfriend, but you dont at all. Most boyfriends would be there for their partner but yours doesn't sound like he is. He ignores you, doesn't give support, gets angry at you, and you say it breaks your heart! Boyfriends aren't supposed to break your hearts! If i was you, i'd honestly end things, he doesn't sound right at all. However, if you do truly, truly, love him then speak to him about it face to face. No point doing it on the phone cos he can just end the call. Are you sure everything is all right with your boyfriend? He could just have changed, or their could be something wrong. He could also have a few problems!
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