[guyperson]

Hi Im 15, in high school and to be honestly my life kinda sucks. I have to go to high school everyday with no friends and its really hard, but what makes my life really suck is my Social anxiety.

If you dont know what that is, its a disorder that basically means your extremely shy. It makes my life a living hell at high school. Im insanely self conscious and insecure because of it.

I keep telling myself life'll get better but I just dont see it happening anytime soon. The reason I said my life KINDA sucks is because I acually have one thing going for me and its the fact that I like how I look. I just wish I didnt have any ance, but other than that, I like how I look. Thats something that makes me happy. Another is marijuana, I smoke it alot. I just love to come back to my comfort zone (my house) and relax and smoke.

Anyway, What Should I do???? Im pretty miserable, weed is the only thing keeping me sane/happy. Social anxiety fucking ruins my life. I HATE SITTING IN MY ROOM ALL DAY. Can someone help????

[Lifeless Creature]

umm...it won't be that hard to start a conversation with a classmate...seeking help in ur homework or lessons wouldn't make it awkward...and then it'd be easier to continue talking! u'd have one person as u're friend and then he'd introduce u 2 his friends..then u'd have more and so on!! it's not that hard actually!! u need to get over u're social anxiety! or if u can't do it at school...just join a club or maybe go to the gym..it's another way of making friends!!

[Rose412100]

I used to have social anxiety. But it was where I would always think to myself: "Oh god, the person sitting next to me must be thinking: 'Why do I have to sit by such an ugly fatass?'" I would literally be shaking in my seat. Last year, however, I just went FUCK THIS and got over it. Now I'm more carefree, and I can laugh and joke, blah blah blah.

Now, for you, it's all about taking small steps. Ask your neighbor about a question you're having trouble with, or even ask the teacher. Try to introduce yourself to others, and talk with the other students in your classes. It'll get better when you decide it gets better.

Like @chocolate freak said, go out to the gym or volunteer somewhere. Instead of sitting in your room all day, get up, go out, and find something that you would enjoy doing. Especially something that involves working together with people, because that will help you get over your anxiety quickly.

I do hope this helps

[Elle]

I can say, though, that social anxiety is not always that easy to overcome. Like Chocolate said, get out and join stuff, get involved, get it in your head that you WILL and ARE going to make just one friend. Start out slow. Though, you will be surprised at the power of social networking. It wouldn't be long after that and you could have more friends than what you thought, just by trying and making that one new friend.

[happymom]

I have struggled with social anxiety myself. I agree with what the others have said, but I would also recommend you ask your parents to take you to a cognitive behavioral therapist. Cognitive behavioral therapy is especially effective in treating social anxiety. I know it seems like it is impossible to overcome, but you can recover from anxiety and be free of it. If I can do it, so can you.

If you can't find a therapist in your area that does cognitive behavioral therapy, I'm sure there are books and web sites on the subject that might be helpful. I'm sorry I can't recommend any offhand, but if you look around I'm sure you will find them. Hope this helps.

[Paper Kitty]

I've never really suffered with social anxiety but I've never found it easy to talk to people- I know that it can be hard and it's easy to start worrying about everything that could go wrong and just hide out by yourself a lot of the time.

Like others said you'd be amazed at how many people you can eventually get to know just by talking to one person or making one friend.

Is there anything you enjoy doing? Joining a club is probably the easiest way to get to know people other than over the internet. I'm not saying it's easy, but I know it's the way a lot of people meet others.

I guess, like others said, that you could try and take it in small steps- set yourself goals every day. You can set very simple goals such as answering a question in class, complimenting somebody's clothes, or smiling and saying hello to somebody you vaguely know. If you see somebody on their own, try and go over and talk to them- try your hardest not to worry about it- they'll probably be glad, and if they don't seem to be you can always smile and leave them to themselves. Try to be yourself- those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter

That's a good thing to tell yourself. It's easy to get very anxious and caught up in things such as what people might think of you if you do one thing or another- you just need to keep reminding yourself that it doesn't matter. There will always be somebody who won't like any given person, and for every person in the world there are hundreds of people who might like them and become a possible friend.

[MistyFTW]

I know how you feel, dude. My life sucks too. I live in a tiny, isolated neighborhood of only 4 houses and I go to an uber-uptight all girls' school. My advice? Use the Internet to cope and find teens in your same situation. At school, join a club or sport. Above all: pluck up the courage to talk to someone. You need to try to get the ball rolling, however slowly.

[M.A.K]

Listen people ,stop saying that your life sucks and stuff ,if you don't have confidence in your self how will you succeed with life then you'll be complaining every time that your life sucks ,let me tell you why ,because you made it be like that ,you just let everything run past you without doing anything instead of ,sitting in a room and saying your life sucks ,make something out of it ,do what you like to do ,i promise you that no matter how shy or what ever you are you surely will make friends ,don't lose hope ,if you can't find friends one day they will find you !

Please all of you do me a favor , stop taking drugs ,smoking and etc. ,no matter how much it may relax you it will just make your life miserable in the future ,we all are still young and we don't need drugs to be happy ,i think that mostly people do drugs is when they lose hope in life , To the OP you are only 15 ,mate cheer up , you will make friends ,don't let some disorder or something get you ,overcome it ,i know it may be hard but you can overcome anything if you put your mind to it ,that's all i have to say !

[Gray]

join some Groups , a Sport ... do you have any hobie?.. are you good to a sport? Start to talk to people around you ... and Remember , if you need a friend im always here , and i believe everyone here would love to help and talk to you

[tenochtetlan]

I used to be like that but then I realized that the only thing that mattered was ME and not the environment I was in. You should relax stop thinking about yourself too much and you will be surprised how all these bad things will pass by.