[youngMC]

I'm sorry for a long post.


During my early teens years, I had a crush on this girl. My friends would always say "she's out of your league". I get that maybe she was too good for me, or too pretty, or whatever, but very recently I have given it another thought.


When I was younger, I grew up in the city. I lived in a 3 family home, I believe I was in the lower middle class, but being young I never thought of where I ranked. I moved to the suburbs where in my state most of the wealthier people live. All my friends are wealthy, but I never told them and never will tell them that I'm not wealthy. But I'm getting off track..


Most of the girls I meet or have met come from better off families. I just feel like I'm nowhere in their league, even without knowing them on a personal level. I have no idea why I feel this way, but maybe because I'm afraid they wouldn't understand or because they could find a rich guy to go out with that could provide them with a whole heck of a lot more.


I was back in the city visiting some family a few days ago. I attended the local high school football game, and like any guy I was looking over at the cheerleaders lol. For some reason, I felt that if I got to know them that I'd probably have way more in common than a girl where I currently live, because they probably are more in my league and since I'm half Italian most of the girls are in that city are too (which that makes no difference).


I have no idea if I'm feeling this way because, its an identity crisis, or I finally realize where I currently am in the financial classes. I continue to strive to get a good education and hope to get a good job since I like living in the suburbs and I'd like to keep it that way. Meeting my friends I have now have been a great influence on me since I would love to be able to have enough money to provide for my future family or just not worry about not having enough money.


Am I wrong for feeling this way? Am I being prejudice in any way? I'm not ashamed about what class I'm in, but it just seems so complicated.

[Gray]

Evryone is Unique in their own Way , The leagues are a Shity Game of Boys... You are and you feel who you WANT to.. noone will tell you , and you will never know till you try.

You might not be rich ... as for money
but you might be rich in your heart.. and that matters !

Leagues are Shit things... talk to me if you need anything , just PM me

[guitarguy1357]

Only a really shallow girl would date someone based on money alone, most people are not like that, it's all to do with personality, if you are nice and friendly then people will like you.

[youngMC]

@Gray - Thanks man! I never reall belived in the leagues bit, but like I always do, I think to much into it.

@guitarguy1357 - I've never known a girl like that either, I'm just concerned that once she finds out I'm not wealthy or made of money like her friends, family, or the people, especially guys around her. But maybe I'm thinking too much.

[warewolf95]

Leagues are bullshit. Im goin after a lovely girl everyone would consider "out of my universe", let alone league, and we might be goin somewhere

[DeepDistress]

I think it's stupid to say you wouldn't have a chance with them, or if they'd be shallow to not date someone out of their league etc.
However,
for me at least I come from country family with not too much money, hard to get buy, etc. And we grew up mature learning how to do stuff and take care of ourselves, work hard, etc. For me.. I tend to need a guy like that who is a man who can fix things, work hard, etc. it'd be hard for me to date a guy who came from money and used to people doing things for him, or not knowing how to do things.. it's not really being shallow it just doesn't fit with my personality, or the life i want. Something I learned hardcore in my last relationship though they didn't come from money.

[youngMC]

@warewolf95 - lol. I mean I don't care what others think, but its just what a girl might think about where I come from financially. But I guess thats where finding someone who is down to earth comes into play.

@DeepDistress - I'm sure there are a lot of girls who would love a hard worker, someone who provides for his family and such. I guess what I was more concerned about was what its like to go out with or have a relationship with someone who was born with a silver spoon in their mouth.

[DeepDistress]

Yeah, I know what you mean I think we're just looking at it from different ways. Normally, a good hard working man knows how to fix things, do things himself because he's had to learn that since they don't have the money to have someone else do every thing for them, you know? So I know and get and agree with what you mean, I'm just seeing it a different way.

[youngMC]

I do like hearing it though from another person's perspective. Yeah, I mean I've never known a shallow girl like that before.

[Gray]

i thought the same thing actually for a girl , i was like "She wont even look at me " and she was flirting with me and i was like "its for fun cos we are friends" well a few weeks later i found out it wasnt for fun , but she already had got over me.... leagues do not exist , Each person likes different things not all the girls are the same...