[xXxLunaxXx]

So, I’ll make this fast. I am sexually active and have gone through many pregnancy scares. I am sick of it. I want to talk to my mom about birth control, but I don’t know how. She told me once before that I could text her if I ever needed protection, but I want to know like specifics that I could say or explain. (She does NOT know I’m sexually active). Also, it could help with the heavy, long, and incredibly painful periods I have.

Another thing is that I am having boyfriend trouble. Our year was yesterday (the 23rd or October), but we were not able to spend the day together cause he was forced on a family vacation so we’ll celebrate next week. BUT I was on his Face book and he was talking to one of his sister’s best friends like a lover. She was talking about how when she’s over her ex they can be together and that she’s sure he needs time to get over his ex as well.

I asked him about it and if he was cheating and he exploded in anger beyond belief. He was saying that he has never cheated and said that his friend John was with him and his sister at his sister’s house and John was using his profile to try and get the girl of his dreams. (I know he was at his sister’s as a fact, but the John thing I do NOT know for sure.) I tried to believe him.

THEN, (we’re not friends on Face book and we don’t have each other in either of ours profile pictures) I looked at his profile and there were all these status’s where the girl hacked his account and was saying that when she pulls herself together she’d give herself to him. He wouldn’t reply or anything, but put a different status and ignore it. Then she posted a picture of herself and tagged him and keeps writing posts about him in a loving way and he won’t respond but she won’t stop.

I’ve talked to him multiple times about it and he always says that he loves me and everything, but he seems distant and he said it was just me, but I’m not so sure. Yes, I’m very paranoid about stuff like this but I’m still scared.

Advice? Things to say?

P.S. All my friends say he doesn’t deserve me and that I try to hard when he doesn’t try at all. I don’t agree, but just to give a feel of other’s opinion about our relationship. His sister also was talking to me and saying that he’s a control freak and that she wanted me to break up with him and that I deserved better which was hard for her to say and everything. I’m confused and I trust him. I just don’t trust everyone else.

Please? Anything?

[HDF]

As it pertains to the birth control part i believe that birth control is one of the best ideas. You said that you have had scares and have a heavy painful period. Birth control can help this greatly, not to mention if you aren't ready for children then you should definitely be using a back-up method, be it condoms or some form of birth contol. if you don't feel like talking to your mom then go to your family doctor, that is where i went, they would be happy to talk with you about all the different forms of birth control and help you decide which is best and write you up a prescription. Also if you don't have a family docotor or don't feel comfortable talking to them, there is many planned parenthood facilities and i'm sure they would be happy to see you.

When it comes to your boyfriend i always go by the 'unless he has given you a reason not to trust him then you trust him completely' . But sometimes that nagging feeling that something is wrong just won't go away. The fact that you said he exploded when you confronted him about it is not right(unless of course you have confronted him before about it and it is just repetitive.) I would ask him to talk to this girl and let her know that he is happily dating someone, if he can't do that and just continues to repeat that nothing is going on then that just isn't right. if he has nothing to hide and has done nothing wrong then he should have no problem showing/telling you what he has told this girl.

I hope that this all works out in your favor but if he isn't willing to set the records straight with this girl, or maybe get his buddy to make his own facebook and stop using his, because after all if this girl thinks that it is your boyfriend that is talking to her then that is just going to cause more problems and give her the wrong idea.

I hope i didn't ramble to much lol, good luck hun <3

[KimLe]

As for birth control, I agree with the person above me. If you don't have a family doctor or just don't feel comfortable enough to talk to them, I suggest going to a nearby Planned Parenthood and talking to them about it. It's super important to get on birth control especially if you're not ready for kids and you've had pregnancy scares. It'll take the stress off your shoulders.

As for the boyfriend thing, I think you should sit down and talk to him and ask him what's going on. By him commenting to the other girl, it's giving HER the wrong idea. Even his sister said to break up with him, so maybe she knows whats going on. I think you do have a reason to believe there's something going on because of all the posts she posted on his wall talking about being with him and such. If he was serious with you, he would tell her that he already has a girlfriend and that he's not interested. Sometimes it's better to listen to your friends. When you're in love, you're blinded by love and don't tend to see the things your friends do. So just talk to him and see what's up.

Good luck.