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Hey people, I just joined to ask this question. It may seem shallow, and of course there are people with worse problems that are more deserving of your attention. BUT... I'm a 14 y/o guy, freshman in high school. I am extremely* intelligent, and good looking. I dont consider myself too socially awkward or anything.. But throughout middle school i never really tried to get a social life outside of school, or become "popular". I've always been in gifted classes with other nerdy kids, so i was ok with it. Last year i hit puberty and girls started liking me, alot. Im not gay, but i dont want to enter a relationship unless i like them. I started high school 9 weeks ago, and it is a high school with a lot of weird kids, and other nerdy kids. No sports, some clubs, and not a very rigid popularity pyramid to climb. The popular guys i have spotted are only concerned with getting girls, which (although i am a normal horny guy) i dont care about enough to chase. Well maybe i do, i dont know i havent really tried. Lots of girls like me now, and i want to become popular and have a social life. But i want to try to do this without having girlfriends and such, just by making friends. Your answers will probably be what i tell myself; just be outgoing, kind, and funny, and people will be attracted to you. I am already good looking, so it should come easy to me. I am somewhat popular already, in that people "know" me throughout my school. I dont want to lose this, like i did last year. At the beginning of the year everyone wanted to date me/know me, and then i kind of just shrunk out of existence. So i want to develop more friendships, but not manipulate people. I want actual friends who i can chill with outside of school. I also dont want to spread myself too thin, which is what i think i might be doing. I want to actually develop close friends, not just know everyones name. But i want to do this with everybody. Any suggestions on a formulated plan i can use to achieve this would be greatly appreciated. Use from your own personal experience would probably be good. Thanks!
One thing you should know, "popular kids" don't have friends, they have alliances. And if there is anything I advise, it's not to be so judgmental. I used to be like you in middle school, and you know what, the way I became "popular" or whatever is just by being myself as cliche as it sounds. I mean, I don't care what people think of me and I think people like me and respect me for that. I just hang out with whoever I like. I don't go out of my way to make a friends with someone who is "popular", I'm just friends with people who I like and get along with. I don't care about cliques. I'm friends with everyone and I guess you could say that's what makes me popular.
I don't think girls or relationships really have much to do with it, nor does getting drunk or whatever. Just be smart and nonchalant, that's always gotten me what I want. oh, and don't be an asshole or a bitch.... no one likes that.
popularity is SOOOOO overrated. GOOD LUCK
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You already have a raised ego by saying you are goodlooking , not many people admit it even if they are Be yours self , dont sell your self or something that you are not , Making friends is always difficult... i agree with Runna "_"
sometimes we put up walls , not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to knock them down.
Hey people, I just joined to ask this question. It may seem shallow, and of course there are people with worse problems that are more deserving of your attention. BUT... I'm a 14 y/o guy, freshman in high school. I am extremely* intelligent, and good looking. I dont consider myself too socially awkward or anything.. But throughout middle school i never really tried to get a social life outside of school, or become "popular". I've always been in gifted classes with other nerdy kids, so i was ok with it. Last year i hit puberty and girls started liking me, alot. Im not gay, but i dont want to enter a relationship unless i like them. I started high school 9 weeks ago, and it is a high school with a lot of weird kids, and other nerdy kids. No sports, some clubs, and not a very rigid popularity pyramid to climb. The popular guys i have spotted are only concerned with getting girls, which (although i am a normal horny guy) i dont care about enough to chase. Well maybe i do, i dont know i havent really tried. Lots of girls like me now, and i want to become popular and have a social life. But i want to try to do this without having girlfriends and such, just by making friends. Your answers will probably be what i tell myself; just be outgoing, kind, and funny, and people will be attracted to you. I am already good looking, so it should come easy to me. I am somewhat popular already, in that people "know" me throughout my school. I dont want to lose this, like i did last year. At the beginning of the year everyone wanted to date me/know me, and then i kind of just shrunk out of existence. So i want to develop more friendships, but not manipulate people. I want actual friends who i can chill with outside of school. I also dont want to spread myself too thin, which is what i think i might be doing. I want to actually develop close friends, not just know everyones name. But i want to do this with everybody. Any suggestions on a formulated plan i can use to achieve this would be greatly appreciated. Use from your own personal experience would probably be good. Thanks!
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Be yours self , dont sell your self or something that you are not , Making friends is always difficult... i agree with Runna "_"
