[chill]

Hey guys, so i had this friend.. really good friend, me and her became better friends in grade 11 cuz we somehow managed to get our lockers beside each others.. and have more time together, then near the end of the year.. i got a girlfriend ... lol, well ok me and my group of people i hung out with kinda disconnected for a while, between summer and our senior year we dont have much classes together until next semester, but these past few days i guess she knows im feeling low so shes showing me a lot more interest, so my main question is, when im with her or talking to her like on my bus and stuff, we always struggle to keep a conversation going, its almost like we run out of things to talk about! i mean its always like, so hows school..... hows grades.... and.. what uni you apllied to.. and thats it. can you help me out or something? like what do i tlak about ? how do i get her to open and be really chillllll with me, like and how do i get her to be one of those freinds who are open with each other and just talk about watever, and idk laugh all the time? like how my best freinds were back in the day, but both of them are now complete potheads and they have new smoker dirt friends, i guess i miss them, but how do i get her to be like that with me?

and i guess theres like a touch barrier there too.. cuz idk, im quite attractive, not gonna lie.. and shes real attractive too? so idk theres some tension there, but I KNNOW you guys know what i mean, help a brotha out?

[joey19]

Just be yourself speak your mind even if it is about completley random things. That works sometimes for me because i'am being myself and also the other person feels a bit more comfortable and open up to you and give there opinion on what they think on the randomness you just said.

[VelveteenWolf]

don't try too hard to maintain a "cool, collected" image. irreverent humor is always good for seeming more down to earth. screw the touch barrier, she's your friend, tousle her hair or something( some find it annoying, others see it as a friendly gesture that uniquely characterizes your relationship, especially if you do it often.) try talking to her online as well as irl. talking to someone online can help you get around some of the tension and awkwardness. I didn't become good friends with this girl I had known for three years until I started talking to her online. Also, you can kinda creep her FB to see what she likes and if you have anything in common that you can talk about.

[Lilly]

Maybe she has a crush on you so she is finding it harder to talk to you about stuff?

[chill]

If she does have one, which I'm not too sure she does how do I handle it? :O

[TheEx.Prophet]

Firstly forget about the physical/sexual tension that will either just excite you or intimidate you and focus on communicating with her.

Start your conversation about what she is interested in, and see if you can find a common ground from that bit of information. If you have something in common, then you can continue your conversation from there and it should flow quite nicely!


What do people like the most? Themselves. People LOVE reading horoscopes and fortunes and taking "Who am I?" tests online, because people have an ego and want to think good things about themselves and share this with other people. Work around topics and subjects that will allow her to talk about herself. Example: If she tells you she was at the hairdresser then you compliment her on her hair and you ask her how often she goes to the hair dresser, she’ll tell you she goes every once in a month and then you tell her how many times you go and how your not sure which hairstyle would suit you best next <- this is enough to get an entire conversation going if you follow the technique and continue the feed backing and questioning.

[LaurenTheNerd]

What did you used to talk about? Try bringing up a topic you're comfortable with or you could just be honest and tell her you miss her/miss talking to her etc etc etc.

She may have liked you and now feels bummed out that you got a girlfriend or she may feel just like the group disconnected and she can't get it back again. Some friends just naturally grow apart and I think you should try but if it doesn't work out then she clearly doesn't mind whether or not you stay friends.

[Lilly]

If she does have a crush on you and you do on her then tell her/ ask her?